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to think that it is stupid to leave large sums of money unattended in a pub?

18 replies

GloriaSmut · 06/03/2011 18:56

At the end of a charity event, a person who'd been responsible for selling promotional items puts the whole week's takings (we're talking hundreds here) in an open bag which is left under a table in a corner of a pub that's heaving with people - including quite random, unknown customers.

An hour or so later it is discovered that the money has disappeared. I learn this at 2 in the morning. I send an "oh dear, this is a bit of a blow and yes it would be a good idea to report things to the police" reply and await further developments. Which come at lunchtime with the knowledge of just how much money has been stolen. It then takes me 4 more (polite) texts to drag the basic facts of the matter out (I am an organiser of the event and will be the person to has to make the official explanations) and I'm then accused of "not being supportive" of the person who has fuckwittedly unfortunately lost the money.

AIBU in thinking that congratulations aren't exactly in order? Only there were several, safe and convenient alternatives so far as storing this money was concerned.

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YellowDinosaur · 06/03/2011 18:59

This person is either a fuckwit of the highest order or drunk. Honestly this is a ridiculous thing to do. YANBU

YellowDinosaur · 06/03/2011 19:00

I mean I wouldn't leave my wallet in the circumstances you describe never ming a bag containing hundreds of pounds!

curlymama · 06/03/2011 19:09

Ridiculously stupid thing to do, this person deserves no sympathy.

I'm sometimes in charge of looking after charity money at events, often in a pub, and I can't relax at all. I end up sitting in one place looking after the money, it's such a big responsibilty and you can't take chances on charity money like that.

nannyl · 06/03/2011 19:13

YANBU

I wouldnt leave my purse (which rarely contains more than £20 cash) there, and certainly not £100s, thats not even mine Shock

MadamDeathstare · 06/03/2011 19:17

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ambivalentaboutmarmite · 06/03/2011 19:19

Are you sure the person who claims to have lost the money actually lost it (didn't pocket it themselves?)

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GloriaSmut · 06/03/2011 20:18

I don't mistrust her and genuinely believe that this money has been stolen. However, she is one of those people who always have to do the contrary thing and this time, we're all suffering from her determination to do the opposite to whatever is suggested.

I don't want her head on a plate either but I would like her to accept she's done a really stupid thing and not expect me to apologise for needing some facts about the matter. The latest development is her ringing someone else to say that I was insensitive in wanting answers and that her feelings are hurt!

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IloveJudgeJudy · 06/03/2011 20:24

I'm sorry, but I would be suspicious here and think that maybe an accomplice stole the money. She is the one who needs to do all the explaining to people along with you.

RunAwayWife · 06/03/2011 20:26

What a bloody moron to leave a bag of money in a busy pub.
YANBU

MadamDeathstare · 06/03/2011 20:29

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HecateTheCrone · 06/03/2011 20:29

Either she is the most stupid person on the planet or she left it there on purpose so that someone could take it and split it with her.

Anyway, you need to be very clear that no sympathy for her will be coming from you since this has happened because of her choice.

And I think she needs to apologise to all the people who gave their money.

frasersmummy · 06/03/2011 20:30

god what a moron.. I always say if you have soemthing in a pub that you dont normally have then you should hook it round your ankle.

That way if someone tries to grab it you will know and secondly if you try to leave without it you will fall over it

HecateTheCrone · 06/03/2011 20:31

oh, and has she reported it to the police? this is not clear.

saffy85 · 06/03/2011 20:33

YANBU and you sound positively restrained given the circumstances! Don't get me wrong, whoever stole this money is scum but to be so careless is inexcusable.

Bogeyface · 06/03/2011 20:33

I would text back saying something like "I am sorry that your feel hurt by my questions, but the fact remains that alot of hard work has been undone by your carelessness and this will need to be explained to [the comittee or whoever]. They will be asking my these questions and I will need to give them answers. As you are the person who was responsible for the money and its loss, I am sure you can understand my need for further details"

she fucked up BIG STYLE and she needs telling in no uncertain terms. Why the fuck does she need supporting through this?! She lost the damn money, she should be crawling on bending knee for forgiveness and thinking of ways to try and re-raise it, not moaning that people are having a go!

Stop being nice, it will just give her more reasons to drag out her victim mentality.

scurryfunge · 06/03/2011 20:35

No one can be that stupid. I would be looking at her as the thief.

SeeJaneKick · 06/03/2011 20:39

I would also be suspicious tbh. It's very often someone wh is involved in matters.

thornykate · 06/03/2011 20:43

She should be feeling sorry for the people who were in need of the charity collection, is she this careless with her own belongings or was her handbag & purse safely on her person?

Agree that you can't rule out her arranging this with someone else. Bit strange that she is looking for sympathy when most people would be very grovelling due to guilt about their carelessness. What have the police said?

Is a shame though for the charity :(

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