to sometimes think about the past?

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I did have this somewhere else but thought Id get more traffic here so have moved it.

I occasionally do but decided to post this after a text I got today? I am still good friends with my first true love and Dp knows him, he is our daughters godfather and we text and call occasionally. He is married with 3 kids and 4 step kids. He also has moved away. Anyway he texted today, asking how me and the family were and then he moved onto how he has been thinking about the past and how he wishes he could change things, meaning us back then!!!
I love dp and dd but it just set me thinking how many other people think about the past?

Do you mean thinking about what might have been or could have been different? I think that's often normal, even in a happy relationship.

I'm happily married with a DS but I sometimes think about the most amazing kiss I ever had (not with DH) but on the floor of someone else's room at uni when I was 18. It's pure nostalgia. I wouldn't actually want to be with this man now.

Hi honeybee79, yes mean what might have been or could have been different.

Im not married but living with a partner and we have a dd together.

I have thought abotu the past before but as I say his text got me thinking again especially as he is married with children and it was totally out of the blue.

We text occasionally asking how the family is etc but nothing like this usually comes up.

This time it didnt start like this either, he had got dd's birthday muddled up and we were talking abotu this and how chislren are growing up then he went on to how he would change things if he went back 12 yrs etc. All a bit unusual!!!

Please excuse my spelling!!!

Yes, that does sound a bit odd. But are you happy with your partner? There's always an element of the grass SEEMING greener on the other side but it rarely is. And it's easy to imagine how things might have been with someone if both of you are now unavailable.

If you're happy with your partner then don't open up that can of worms. Seriously!

Hi yeah am happy with my dp and have no intentions of opening them up, I told him that people change, even though he is adament that I havent!!! And that if our lives hadnt got the way they have we wouldnt have our great children ( I have one and he has 3).

If he told me all this before dp and I got together and he got married etc it could have been different but we both have own lives.

I think the texts just got me thinking do other people think about the past too really?

I think they probably do op. I do. But if often just makes me really grateful for the life I have now.

Yeah know what you mean Homeybee79.

Don't torment yourself, you are where you are and things need to stay that way. You can't live your future worrying about lost chances in the past.

Thanks onceamai,

Am not tormenting myself, hadnt really thought about it for quite a while really, probably since before dp and I got together, not seriously anyway.

If anything thinking it odd that he has decided to say anything now.Especially as we text and call every so often and if we are in his area, only once in the last 6 yrs, or he/they are in my area, we
meet up so the kids can see each other.

All very odd, I think that is more what I am thinking about, although it did set me thinking abotu the past a little if I am honest but only briefly.