In not wanting my mum to come round tomorrow?

[Dancergirl]

Dh is away at the moment on business in Canada so I'm on my own with our dds till Wednesday. My mum said she may pop round tomorrow (Sun) to see the girls. But she has a habit of coming round really late in the day, eg 5pm or later just when I'm trying to get supper done/music practice/bags packed/hair washed and all those other Sunday night jobs.

My mum doesn't help out at all when she comes round and she's criticised me in the past for the dds being demanding and me running round after them (not generally true but sometimes Sunday evenings are a bit frantic).

With dh not here I want to make sure everything is organised well tomorrow ready for the coming week and I think that having my mum round will not help. But I feel a bit mean. She can't come earlier as she's out (and we are too).

AIBU?

Yanbu .. Ask her to come a diff day and organise a good time

YANBU - tell her you're busy (which you will be)

YABU, you should cherish your dear mum even though she might be a pain, wait till she is really old when she wont be so mobile then you will have to do the visiting, appreciate her while you can, lifes too short!

YANBU. 5 o'clock is not a reasonable hour for visitors when you have small children - unless of course they're willing to roll up their sleeves and help or at best stay out of the way.

If you know she is likely to come round, cant you do the music practice, get the bags ready, and hair washed before 5pm?

As it comes up to Mothers day; I would love to have my dear late mother around to come and visit me However unreasonable the hour.

Make the most of your mum and stop complaining; She wont always be there!

Invite her for lunch...

5 pm on a Sunday is a rubbish time in any household. Could she come another day?

YANBU. Ask if she can come for tea on Tuesday instead or something?

You don't need to have anyone round just because one day they'll be old, infirm or have died.