to wonder why she does it?

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BACKGROUND: I'm single mum, 1 DS, work FT and doing OU degree. Sister had DP, both work FT, she also does a lot of evening clubs etc.

So we go for family meal, Mum, Dad, Sis, her DP. Myself and DS. Everyone chatting nicely, Sister telling us about job shes applied for internally. Mum askes if its more what she'd want to do, Sis says yes and Mum says maybe you could do a degree?

Sister says, far too loudly IMO, 'It's not that easy, some of us won't get it paid for us'. With a glare in my direction.

Mum says she would be willing to help out but you could have cut the atmosphere with a knife.

Please be proud of me for biting my tongue.

AIBU to wonder why someone would do this??

god bloody well done for not saying anything.

the obvious reason is jealousy. don't let it get to you. live your life.

I'm not getting it, does your mum help you out?

Cos they're jealous of you freedom as a single parent and all the free money you get. It's so much easier doing it all alone with government handouts to rely on. Am thinking of getting one of those caribbean holiday grants they dole out (new single mums only) - XH has done us all a favour by walking out

I'd guess she's insecure because she doesn't have a degree, and thinks your parent's have a higher opinion of you because you are doing one. I'm not saying she's right but I suspect that is the reason. Is she normally jealous of you?

Well done on doing an OU degree by the way (especially while working FT) - I know from experience they are hard work! - I wish you every success

She does it because you are having a great life and achieving things rather than being stuck in an impoverished hovel....like you should be because you are a single parent..... Us single parents should all be looking at your sister with her partner and perfect life and be consumed with jealousy...

PMSL at the reasons.

I wouldn't imagine it jealousy at all tbh - she's always been the 'better' DD, and is very close to my Mum. She is also very opinionated and always has been. I know she could afford it as her and her DP often do festival weekends at £200/hd 3/4 times a year, and have holidays, weekends in London. She would have to give these up/ cut back - but I can only dream of doing them even with my Uni fees paid.

No I don't get help from my parents with the course, The fees are paid by a grant though.

I do wonder if it is because of the belief of 'what' I get as oppossed to the real situation.

My Dad and Brother were rendered speeechless last week when they realised I paid 3/4 of my rent and all my council tax. And the CTC, WTC I get are only equal to any family with my income. I seriously think they thought it was all paid for me. Even when my DS had school lunch my sister said he might as well as they're free. Actually No there and a total waste of money £2 a day. He has packed lunches now though as its cheaper.