(Background information: if my DH lived on his own he probably wouldn?t heat his house. We can afford to heat our house as much as we want. We heat our living room, which is very big and takes a long time to warm up, to 19 degrees. I feel the cold more than DH and would like to heat more but have compromised on this to save energy just as he has compromised on heating at all. We don?t heat very much upstairs. We have 2 small children. )
So, today when we arrived home after a day out it was very cold in the house ? it?s 5 degrees outside and DH had turned the heating off before we went out. I asked DH to turn it on in the cellar (it had clicked off) and light a fire since I was very cold. After some nagging he did both (while I changed and fed DD2). Then, I dozed on the sofa under a blanket (as planned, since I?ve been up since 0430), with my back turned to the heating controls. While I was dozing, he turned the thermostat down to below ambient temperature essentially stopping the heating, so when I got up 45 minutes later, the house was still cold for me: 17 degrees downstairs ( much colder upstairs, but I have given up on that particular front). Am I being unreasonable to think he should have left the heating on so that it warmed up to 19 degrees (our compromise temperature), and that turning it off without discussing it with me (I wasn?t asleep) less than an hour after I had asked him to turn it on was nasty passive aggressive behaviour? (he said he was intending to turn it back on when I woke up).
Off to put the kids to bed but will be back later.