year 6 were weighed and measured this week. two of the children had parents who refused to allow this. AIBU this draws morea ttention to it

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one of them is definately over weight.
i assume her mum didnt want a lecture or advice.
one looks big built, not necessarily over weight,

but only these 2 in the whole class of 30 were singled out as not being weighed.

my dd nor her friends know their weight and height, it will be sent to parents in a letter.

but why on earth wouldnt you want your child to be weighed in this case?????

Will it show if the dc have malnutrition?

ivykaty malnutrition is not a huge public health issue in the UK, obesity is.

I wasn't sure about allowing my ds to be weighed,but did so as I did not want him 'singled out'.

He has always been bigger than most boys his age, he was born at the 98th percentile and has hovered around the 95th ever since.

Sometimes he's chunkier and sometimes he shoots up and gets pretty thin, 'tis normal for him.

When the letter came it said he was in the normal range and he was pleased, looking at it closer though I could see how close he was to being in their overweight category.

The method they use makes absolutely no allowance for a child being tall for their age-is very crude and simplistic.

I'm very glad he'd been for a wee or whatever before he was weighed that day I would hated for him to be labelled that way.

If for example one area in the country proved to have an unusually high amount of malnourished/underweight children then yes, that would be flagged up as an issue needing to be looked in to.

Malnutrition will be an issue in the uk

You can't tell if someone is malnurished by weighing them.

All the data is recorded and individual results sent to the parents. If the child is under or overweight then it is pointed out to the parents who can do something about it or dismiss it as they choose.

They do malnutrition screening programmes for children in hospital - like the MUST screenimng programme. The likelihood is the malnourished kids will become inpatients at one stage or another as children.

I previously could not understand why people would opt out.

I ticked the form saying for my healthy happy son to be weighed and measured.

Months later we got a letter saying he is clincally underweight. They enclosed a fitness leaflet and a healthy eating sheet which was absolutely no help for a clinically underweight child unless you wanted him to disappear.

We were told to see the Dr as soon as possible.

My son eats a great varied diet. He's one of those kids at a party who still sat there at the end hoovering up the food. He is skinny because it's genetic, he doesn't sit still and he loves physical activities.

I won't tick the form this year because sending this letter with no advice except see your Dr asap without taking into account his medical records/history and genetics and enclosing irrelevant diet sheets - well it is a waste of everyones time.

We cannot all be in middle bracket or there would be no middle bracket. We are different shapes and sizes. My son isn't an average size. Well I can't make him average.

Oh and I did mention it to my Dr when I took my youngest for jabs. She rolled her eyes, told me to rip it up and feed him more cake.

You say 'he was pleased' schroeder but to be honest, I don't think parents should discuss the results with their children at all..not least because it may end up with a playground full of children comparing their results.

I think it should be kept to parents only but that's just my opinion.

I dont understand people saying that they dont give permission because the "know" their child isnt over weight.

The post on here the other day proves that you can consider your child to be normal weight and actually they are overweight and you just cant see it.

There was a huge fuss about the girl who put on all that weight after being on Fat Camp in the US. THe majority of posters were saying that there should be something done for her, that there should be obesity counselling etc. BUt how can the need for that be predicted without these stats?

You cant have it all ways! Either co-operate with the planning these services need or dont complain that they arent available!

She rolled her eyes, told me to rip it up and feed him more cake

Well that's crap advice from a Doctor who clearly knows little about trying to build a child's weight up healthily

worraliberty I would agree with you generally, but in this case.
1,it confirmed what we knew-that is that he wasn't overweight.
2,he was worried about it (he is a worrier by nature)and had of course noticed being weighed

Worra - we have gone through his daily diet on what he eats and I have not been given any advice from DR or school nurse. Can you help ?

Today's diet

Breakfast
Weetabix
Slice of toast with marmalade

Midmorning snack
Flapjack

Lunch
Tuna pasta bake with garlic bread

Pudding
Apple crumble and custard

Tea
Various sandwiches, cheesy flan, cucumber, grapes

Snacks of dried apricots, dates ( to alleviate constipation - the joys)

Supper
Milk and biscuit.

Pancake I'm not a dietician so no I'm afraid I can't help but hopefully someone can.

Breakfast
Weetabix
Slice of toast with marmalade Lose the toast and add an extra Weetabix instead

Midmorning snack
Flapjack V V High in sugar. have fruit instead

Lunch
Tuna pasta bake with garlic bread

Pudding
Apple crumble and custard High in sugar and has unneccesary fat have low fat yoghurt instead or just dont have pudding

Tea
Various sandwiches, cheesy flan, cucumber, grapes How many sandwiches? What filling?

Snacks of dried apricots, dates ( to alleviate constipation - the joys)

Supper
Milk and biscuit. Just have milk, no need for a biscuit too

Our dietician ( the youngest sees one for allergy reasons) has gone through what the kids eat and given it the thumbs up. So I just have a kid who is tall but skinny. His Headmistress says she cannot wait for him to get to juniors and join the cross country team.

If your kid isn't average then it just another thing to 'worry' you.

Bogey - he needs fattening up. He's not overweight.

I don't understand why people get so het up about this. If you don't like what the letter says then bin it. It's not like anybody will check up on whether you go see the doctor or not. You don't need to justify the decision except to yourself.

Im a bit confused about what your suggestions are trying to achieve bogeyface

Sorry!!!!!

I thought you were asking for advice on LOWERING his weight!

All I can think of is to ask for a dietician referral. Have you had him checked over properly to make sure he doesnt have a gastric problem as he is underweight and has constipation too?

[Bogey slopes off feeling like a pillock......]

He also gets constipated so things like flapjack and crumble with whimsical flour and a touch of bran and wholemeal bread helps to keep him regular with 'natural products'

as a recovering anorexic under no cercumstanced would I alow my girls to be weighed as children - I don;t wish them to develop food issues and ideas about perfection and body shape at age 6/9

Crossed posts.

Bogey - come back.... I love a pillock. It's usually me.

Whimsical flour. What the fuck is that ????

I mean wholemeal.

See Bogey - whose the pillock now? We can take turns...