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AIBU?

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Am We being mean and Unreasonable

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canyou · 05/03/2011 12:51

To ask friend to pay her full share?
We might be but
A group of us [5 girls]are going on a hen night tonight meal and a few drinks in brides home town about 30 miles away, we looked into travel arrangements there and back and our local Taxi firm offered a limo which seats 6 for a set price of Euro 100, everyone agreed this was they way to go as cheaper then booking 2 taxi's. Yesterday evening 1 girl pulled out of the trip down as she will get her husband to drive her down but will take the taxi back.
Problem is she will pay half her fare [ok she is travelling one trip] but the others have said no she needs to pay full amount as they will not make up difference.
If she does not pay her full share I will have to pay it [my name in booking so up to me]
I will struggle to find the money this week as on a very tight budget [esp if she pulls out of the whole trip and gets her DH to collect her as well]
I hate this crap, and don't want to be unfair to her or out of pocket myself

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Newgolddream · 05/03/2011 12:55

I feel as everyone originally agreed to apy their own full share then this is what should be stuck to.

YellowDinosaur · 05/03/2011 12:56

If this girl agreed to pay in the first place I think she needs to stump up her full share. otherwise she is expecting her 5 friends to pay extra which is unreasonable.

Why not speak to her and say that either she needs to pay her full share or arrange her own transport for both ways as then you can cancel the limo and share a 5 seater cab between the rest of you for both ways 9which might work out cheaper anyway)

onceamai · 05/03/2011 13:02

She has to pay her full share. Or you and the others go on public transport and pay for taxis home.

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canyou · 05/03/2011 13:03

Ok not feeling so bad that I will be asking her, I did mention paying but she has said no she will pay one way which is the main problem but wanted to tackle it before I go to work and before we are at the hen party.
Yellow I don't want to cancel limo as it is work being taken from the driver also it is the same cost regardless of car type it is done on mileage.

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canyou · 05/03/2011 13:06

Onceamai no public transport, we are going to the -sticks Country side and as it is impossible to get taxi and with the distance we would need to book also we would need the larger car coming back.

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Hatesponge · 05/03/2011 13:07

Agree she either pays her full share or makes her own arrangements to get there and back, in the latter case then you can just get a normal taxi so wont (hopefully) be out of pocket.

Hatesponge · 05/03/2011 13:08

x-post, if you don't want to cancel, then she will have to pay.

BluddyMoFo · 05/03/2011 13:08

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ENormaSnob · 05/03/2011 13:09

She needs to pay the full fare as agreed when booking.

What is her rationale for getting her dh to take her?

ashamedandconfused · 05/03/2011 13:09

absolutely she should pay the full amount,anything else is ridiculous - if you were sharing a holiday house and someone then decided after booking to join in a few days late, they would still need to pay their full share of the weeks rental - she is very cheeky saying otherwise and so not fair on you all !

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canyou · 05/03/2011 13:10

Ok thanks am off to ring her and make mental not to never arrange anything for others ever again

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 05/03/2011 13:12

Either you agree to chip in for her half share (all of you) or this girl has to pay it. She agreed at the start and has now changed her mind and made another arrangement for the trip down. She should pay her full share regardless really, but certainly YOU are NOT responsible for paying all of her share.

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canyou · 05/03/2011 13:12

ENorma, she needs to get her hair and make up done and would not like to be rushed and kept to a time,
She forgets I have 45 min to get home from work, do hair make up and feed DC and I am first pick up so she has approx 20 min more time then me.

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LessonsinL · 05/03/2011 13:15

Maybe she can't afford the fare and that's why she's getting a lift down.

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canyou · 05/03/2011 13:22

Lessonsil she is getting her hair and make up done in a salon and booked a holiday to Australia for 3 weeks I would have thought Euro 20 would not break the bank,
She is not answering her mobile and her DH said she is not at home.
I have no realised that I probably should not wear a cream dress so am off to root out another dress and hold it all in knickers

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YellowDinosaur · 05/03/2011 13:24

Presumably she knew how long she would have to get ready when she agreed to this!

She needs to pay the full share imho especially with such a silly reason. Why should everyone else be out of pocket because of this?

LessonsinL · 05/03/2011 13:25

Meh, sometimes people's priorities are different to yours. She hasn't "forgotten" that you have to get ready in 45 minutes, it just doesn't compute to her, as they are not her problems :)

Ask her to put up the rest of the cash, or find her own way back and re-do the booking. She can't have it both ways.

ENormaSnob · 05/03/2011 13:27

She's taking the piss then.

Tell the tight bitch to cough up or fuck off.

NannyBeth · 05/03/2011 14:13

Canyou maybe the fact she's going to a salon and has recently booked a long haul holiday is why she can't afford it?? Just a thought! I've booked a trip home (am an Aussie and this is my first trip home in over 2yrs as it's so flipping expensive) and it's really clearing me out - still over £500 to pay off credit card for flights alone and I booked between Xmas and new yrs!!!

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canyou · 05/03/2011 14:26

Nanny she knew the cost 2 weeks ago and agreed to it, If she came and said it was cost then ok but she has not also if it was me I would not be going to a salon for hair and make up if I had already made a financial commitment, TBH I would now love not to be paying as DP is out sick and his income is not there [mix up at the wages Dept] but I agreed to go and to pay so I cannot pull out,
Nanny I hope you have a good trip home at the cost.

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