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Original poster

To want to put ds2 in creche for one morning a week?

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mosschops30 · 04/03/2011 21:01

Not for childcare, I only work one day in the week and he goes to the ils that day.
Dd and ds1 both went to a childminder and IMHO were much more confident, less clingy than ds2. I can't even gave a pee in peace without him screaming at the bottom of the stairs.

So I thought that chreche one morning a week would be good for him, he would get some interaction with other children, and get used to being away from me for a bit. Dh thinks it's a ridiculous idea.
Would also be nice to have one morning to myself.

So Aibu?

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littleducks · 04/03/2011 21:04

I understand the desire but i dont think it would work, not at one morning a week. He would possibly become more clingy.

Two sessions a week would prob work better, it isnt so long between sessions

Newbabynewmum · 04/03/2011 21:04

IMO one morning a week is not enough for a child to settle into a crèche.

There's too long in between visits and I think it'll make him more clingy and worse to be honest. Sorry. I'd make it more than one morning.

thisisyesterday · 04/03/2011 21:06

yes and no

some children just ARE clingy, and I personally think that leaving them with other people/children doesn't necessarily stop that.

Also I think one day a week isn't often enough. a lot of places have a minimum of 2 days, but preferably more because otherwise it's a really long gap between visits and they don't really settle as well.

That said, there is no real reason not to try it and if he likes it great! if he doesn't you can always take him out again
I don't think it's a bad thing to do per se, I'm just not convinced it will have the effect you're looking for

Sleepwhenidie · 04/03/2011 21:09

YADNBU-purely for you to get away from the groundhog day that is 24/7 childcare once a week, it will do wonders for your general mood/sanity. It certainly won't hurt DS either. If DH thinks it's so ridiculous then ask if he would like to spend 7 days a week at his job from 6am to 8pm and more, with colleagues banging on the cubicle door every time he went to the loo Grin. honestly....

I don't think I could have stayed sane without the gym creche when I just had ds1, went a lot as it was the only childcare I had...I got very fit!

Beamur · 04/03/2011 21:09

YANBU to want to have some time to yourself, that alone is a good enough reason.
Many nurseries have a minimum period of time - usually so the DC's settle better, DD's had a 2 session minimum level per week - which was one day or two half days.
It can be a good way to socialise a child who doesn't get much other contact...but, I guess it could be counterproductive too, if your child is clingy, being in creche/nursery is not necessarily going to 'cure' it.
How old is your child?

Sleepwhenidie · 04/03/2011 21:10

Also agree more than one session prob better so he would get a sense if routine and familiarity. maybe 2 or 3 shorter sessions rather than one long one?

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mosschops30 · 04/03/2011 21:20

Yes I've heard other people say that, they need a couple of sessions.

Tbh I not think we could afford 2 mornings a week, I only work 24 hours because we don have to pay fr childcare and can manage on that.

My only other option is to join a different gym which has a creche, they charge £3 per hour so I could put him in there for 2 hours twice a week would only be £12 on top of my gym membership, which is £3 more than where igo now

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mosschops30 · 04/03/2011 21:21

Sorry my typing on the iPad is appalling

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MrsGravy · 04/03/2011 21:24

I agree that YANBU for wanting a morning to yourself but I'd be surprised if a morning a week at creche cures clinginess. In my opinion and experience that tends to just come with time.

TragicallyHip · 04/03/2011 21:30

YANBU

I have put Ds into nursery 2 mornings a week, it has changed him for the better and loves going there. Plus I get some peace!

Would the gym creche have the same staff on each session you go to? Otherwise he may not get used to it if there are different staff each time.

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mosschops30 · 04/03/2011 21:31

I don't know if the staff would be the same, it has a very good reputation so I would be happy for him to go there.

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TragicallyHip · 04/03/2011 21:41

Oh i'm not saying the staff are dodgy just that it took a while for Ds to develop a bond with his key worker and to not cry when I left him.

LeninGrad · 04/03/2011 21:47

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mosschops30 · 04/03/2011 21:51

He's 16 months. I couldn't afford more than £20 per wk and even that's a stretch

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mosschops30 · 04/03/2011 21:51

He's 16 months. I couldn't afford more than £20 per wk and even that's a stretch

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littleducks · 04/03/2011 22:07

Maybe save up for a month or two, send him twice a week for two months until he is settled then reduce to once a week?

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