to not want to go to hen weekend...

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...even though I am the only bridesmaid?

Old schoolfriend asked me to be her bridesmaid, was quite surprised as we fell out for a long time in our 20's - I was going through a difficult time in my life and she just cut me off saying she couldn't handle me and all my issues (I had got pg by unsuitable man and had decided to have a termination which was really upsetting) literally stopped taking my calls day after the termination. She had never been a particularly good or loyal friend tbh. I have since married although obviously she wasn't my BM!

We have been in touch again for about four years, though she lives far away.

Anyway I was so surprised to be asked I said yes. TBH I don't think she has anyone else to ask as all her other friends seem to be work friends.

I am happy to be BM but tbh really cannot face the hen weekend. I have a young family and am still BFing 18 month old and do not relish the thought of an expensive weekend away for four nights which is what this is. I won't know anyone, I don't drink, and cannot afford it. Deposit is now being demanded.Would rather spend the money and time with my family.AIBU?

Rempy yes!
I refused to have a 'hen weekend' for this exact reason. It's a bloody inconvenience and I knew deep down nobody would really want to come.
Kids / work etc etc. Went for dinner and wine - twas magic.
Being a BM is more than enough, don't go. If she loves you as a real friend she will understand.

Rempy yes!
I refused to have a 'hen weekend' for this exact reason. It's a bloody inconvenience and I knew deep down nobody would really want to come.
Kids / work etc etc. Went for dinner and wine - twas magic.
Being a BM is more than enough, don't go. If she loves you as a real friend she will understand.

The cost of hen/stags really stress me and DH out since we've has DC.

I didn't go on one of my best friend's ones a few yrs ago as it was just going to be a complete headache getting there and the expense on top getting to her wedding (far away and 3 nights) was unjustifable to me and my family and our financial sit. at the time. In fact I think she only managed to russle up 5 others (all childless or were her family)

It really annoys me - this trend of expecting people to pay out so much money for hen/stag. YANBU, however, like other posters have said - you are the bridesmaid so a very tricky one indeed.

4 night hen do?

Fucking piss take IMO

YADNBU - hen night fine - hen holiday something else entirely. Too many brides now think that they are entitled to have a mega splurge. I wonder whether when you're planning a wedding the huge costs involved mean that you start to think that a couple of hundred quid for a weekend long party is cheap and that all your friends will think the same way.