to think this woman is an insensitive cow and to consider complaining!

[houseworkwhore]

Today me and my mum went to a mother and baby group with my LO (one next week) this is the first group that iv had the confidence to go to in about 6 months as iv recently had a nervous breakdown.

so we get there and LO starts playing with some musical instruments, all was fine and some other babies about the same age came over and started to play with the toys also, now as we all know babies take things from each other and do not share, i am always on the ball and make sure i give the toy back to said child.

This lady who was a 'helper / assistant at the group came and sat with the children and was playing with the instruments, she turned to me and asked if my LO was an only child i replied yes she is to which she said...

Well that will explain why she doesnt share now wont it!!

I was gobsmacked and couldnt quite believe what she had said, there was an awkward silence and my mum set her straight and everything carried on, i feel quite sad by it now!

As most people have over a year gap between chilren, therefore about half of all the one year olds at the group will be only chidren!! (All those without older siblings and who are first born) Very few one year olds can share.

VinegarTits

I have yet to meet a nearly 1 year old BABY that shares their toys! Crazy old bat! (her, not you op!)

Ignore her

Would you in all honestly said Fuck off and die Vinegar tits?

To have such a hostile reaction to a fairly harmless remark seems way over the top.

I suspect a lot of posts on MN are fantasy responses!

OP sorry you had a breakdown and I hope you are on your way to recovery. But honestly, don't sweat the small stuff. You'll get a lot worse than this. Growing a thick skin will save you hours of needless angst and upset

Sounds like a pisspoor "joke" to me. My sister often used to "joke" my DD doesn't share well because she's an only child right now. I ignore it because she's chatting bollocks. I haven't met a toddler/baby yet who will happily share stuff- they don't get it yet.

only in my head uphill

yes im getting rid of the barman Bella, he is becoming rather creepy, like driving past at the exact same time i get off the train and stopping to give me a lift when my house is 5 mins walk away from the station

shit wrong thread

LOL at vinegartits!!

If everyone knew the thoughts in my head is often so different from the words that come out it would be a scarier place round here!!!

The kids have know idea how many times the words 'FFS what now???? (grr) go round my head - what they here is 'yeah love- what?'

One year old babies do not understand sharing, do they? I suppose they might have learnt not to bother complaining when a child takes a toy off them...
Best wishes, op.

your mums right.woman was just doing a crap job of making conversation. Good on you for getting out there - keep it up!

I have three kids and none of them wanted to share at that age. Ignore her - a lot of older women (and men actually) forget what children are capable of at certain ages. And try not to be offended!

You're sensitive because of your history. Well done for going there at all. It can be intimidating. She was tactless but I don't think it merits a complaint.

She made a stupd comment but if you complain it'll escalate. Let it drop for now, but mentally log it and if she makes a habit of being a pillock and you deem it worth the aggro grass on her then.

Please frget it....I understand though. When my DD2 was born I was SO sensitive and down....I was devestated when a similar thing happened.

Take it slow...be kind to yourelf and remember that it will get much easier soon.

Its a silly comment, but i'm sure she didn't mean it horribly.

If anything I think its children with siblings that don't share because they have to learn to fend for themselves when it comes to getting the toys they want!

I empathise, OP. I had a nervous breakdown when I was twenty and sometimes little comments can still totally knock my confidence.