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new job and childcare.

8 replies

BossGibbs · 03/03/2011 14:05

Name changed for this, and have changed some of the details to not associate with RL situation. Please dont "out" me Grin

Currently applied for a new position, within my working role, which would require me to need a childminder/nursery placement.

My cousin is in the process of becoming a registered childminder, and is looking at me, in the hope that if I am successful I will register my children with her. Now I have a few issues in this, and their is pros and cons to each of them.

Pros.

She is in walkable distance to school, and bus.
she is a good parent.
has excellent organisational skills. (except money)
would stimulate the children.

Cons.

Shes a friend/family

She is a good parent, however always putting her children first, ignores when their behavior is bad (scratching children's faces) so its a worry, to think that her children's behaviour will be ignored at my children's expense.

Her child watches alot of TV, children always fighting.

My child's health concerns.

shes a smoker, however not inside the house.

Also both of them are currently unemployed, and I think shes seeing me as a way out of their current situation (which is definitely not through choice for them).

OP posts:
SarahBumBarer · 03/03/2011 14:07

Are you being unreasonable to..... ???

chabbychic · 03/03/2011 14:07

Never ever mix business and family. Seriously.

It wouldn't matter if she was the best childminder in the world.

RealityIsKnockedUp · 03/03/2011 14:09

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trixie123 · 03/03/2011 14:24

I wouldn't. My friend used a friend of hers unofficially (yes I know) and it was ok until her son, who is only two damaged something in the CM home and then all hell broke loose with the friend's DH on the warpath and all sorts. Not sure if their friendship has survived intact. Its hard enough dealing with issues that arise in a purely professional relationship. If you mix in family / friends there is so much potential for difficulty. If you DO decide to go ahead have a contract drawn up and discuss concerns like smoking, fighting and TV before you start. If you find that too awkward, then go with a different CM.

Guildenstern · 03/03/2011 14:25

I would run a mile from this situation.

Quenelle · 03/03/2011 14:31

I wouldn't. I prefer to have an entirely professional relationship with our CM.

RhinestoneCowgirl · 03/03/2011 14:31

The smoking and lots of TV are not what I would be looking for in a CM, regardless of whether they were related to me or not.

southmum · 03/03/2011 15:05

Id ignore the smoking as a con. She doesnt smoke in the house and it has no bearing at all on whether she will be a good CM or not (some none smokers are total shits you know Hmm)

Not sure Id mix family and business though, without some proper 'rules' beforehand.

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