38 weeks preg and don't want to traipse across C Lon at peak time

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My close friend is coming from abroad for a trip to London (long weekend). She knows I will be 38 weeks pregnant. She has given me 2 slots to see her (after reminding me that she has a gazillion things and to do and people to see): 5.30 tomorrow or 9am on Saturday at her hotel. She has 2 young children and so I understand she has her limitations. I feel pretty nervous about travelling through C. London on buses and tubes to meet her and asked if she could meet on Saturday or Sunday afternoon closer to where I live but she has not responded. Last time I saw her, she was 5 months preg. and I went to see her at her hotel as that is entirely reasonable. Just not sure how to handle it.

sorry to hear about your dd

could you book one of the slots with her but ring her instead of going to see her in person - or will she have access to skype or anything similar?

Might not be ideal but given the circumstances (and if I were you, I wouldn't want to be travelling very far either) it would at least be a dedicated half hour where you can chat without being disturbed.

Might be a different way of compromising so you would at least have some contact? (hopefully you have the free hour long calls at weekends)

Sorry to hear about your loss.

I know what its like to go on the tube near to term and I agree its best avoided. Wait for her to contact you and explain you don't feel comfortable traveling and can she come to you? If she doesn't understand then she is not worth having as a friend.

Don't go love and if she can't make effort to come visit you don't fret. When I was 38wks I found it hard to waddle a few baby steps let alone schlep across London. I'd had numerous miscarriages prior and was hyper anxious too which is even more reason to consider only your own wishes here. If I were your "friend" I wouldn't even have contemplated asking you to traipse across town but I'm a bit weird like that.

Sorry about your daughter Do you mind if I ask what happened? (Don't reply if you don't want of course).

Considering what you went through with you last pregnancy she is being really inconsiderate. you should just tell her straight.

Thanks again everyone for your advice. Sent her a text this morning saying that I got no response to my email and could we meet weekend afternoon. No response and so decision made. Yes, she knows about what happened.

Doesn't sound as if your losing out on much by not meeting her anyway - you've text twice, and twice she has ignored you - VU of her.

Put your feet up, relax, do not go rushing around anywhere.

I too lost my first little one and know how anxious you will be with this birth imminent. I wish you much joy and happiness with this little one.