My mum was invited to one of her oldest friends 50th. She couldnt go as she had a work meeting which involved a hotel stay which had already been paid for. Friend suggested she take a sicky but my mum has a condition which means she takes long periods of sickness. Shes in the process of getting sick notes/a proper diagnosis etc so that her employer will recognise her condition as at the moment, they are trying to disciple her for the amount shes taken. Also mum is so honest, she wouldnt take a day off when she wasnt sick, especially given the hotel stay.
She told friend this. Friend so wrapped up in the party planning she didnt listen. Mum told her again the weekend before the party and her friend took it in, and was very very upset. Its understandable that the friend didnt listen too, shes got a very sick grandchild at the moment who was having an op.
Now they arent talking. My mum has text her and the friend will not reply. Mums talking about sending a letter [bad idea IMO] and I suggested taking her mate out for a meal instead, maybe some flowers as its still her birthday, misunderstanding or not. Mum wont as she thinks this is 'buying off' her friend and she is 'in the right because she did tell her she couldnt go!'
The longer this goes on the more hurt my mum is, but I can totally see the friends position and she must be hurting too. It doesnt matter who is 'right', they just need to get over it!
AIBU to knock their heads together? I think Mum should just call her but Mum is adamant she's not done anything. Its such a shame for a 30 year friendship to go down the drain.