To be worried your child will turn out like you

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Just out if interest

I often wonder how I feel if she turns out doing the things I got up to?

Well, I didn't get escorted home by the police, I didn't do drugs, I didn't get my stomach pumped and I didn't get accidently pg until I was married for 5 years .

What I did do, was have a fantastic laugh living with my best buddy, went on lots of girlie holidays, got drunk - a lot, went to wild parties and had plenty of boyfriends.

I'd be quite happy if, at my ripe old age of 43, she can look back and say, 'jeez, I had a laugh.'

So yes, I'd be happy with DD being like me.

I worry about dd having teenage years like me even though it's all turned out ok now at 31. I had eating disorder from 13 to 20 so passing on my bad self image/ wonky eating it a real worry.

I also started going out with dh when I was 15 and he was 22. Definitely not good even though we are still together now and he's the only bloke I've ever kissed(let alone anything else)

The other biggie is that I used to bunk off school to meet up with him and was house hunting instead if studying for alevels. Basically I was a nightmare for my poor parents.

I was a very well behaved teenager, looked after my little brother, as my DM didn't.

Only one boyfriend, now DH for 27 years.

I am thinking of having a midlife crisis, everyone should get to misbehave sometime.

I just think it weird that they don't think of the MIL possibility! It is just as likely they take after her as you

I agree I can honestly say if i'd met his parents before I was pregnant we'd never have got together.

It is always a good idea to meet the parents early on! Maybe the genes just missed a generation and will turn up in your DCs!

DD will do as I say, not as I do (or did) lol

I hope DD has my good points and none of the bad

I want her to have better teen years than me, I want her to travel and see the world, I want her to wait until she's older before starting a family, I want her to be worry free and happy

If she drinks, smokes, has a boyfriend, fails exams, is a bully, is selfish, or anything else I can think of, she will be in the biggest trouble ever!

Oh god I really really hope not. However, my mum takes great delight in saying 'he's just like you' when he is being so erm....determined! I can't even remember half the things I have done as I was far too into partying than I should of been. However, have done a lot in life travelled etc and have a good career and a marvelous DH.
Melly19 I think you are being far too hard on yourself. You are young and people make mistakes when they are young part of lifes learning IMO. You have a job and that is a good thing as lots of people your age can't even be arsed to get off their parents sofa's. I retrained as a nurse after doing an Access course when I was 26 just because you haven't found a job you enjoy yet doesn't mean you won't. You have years left to work out what you want to become in the job world and not having a decent secondary education won't stop you if it's something you want.