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...to really wanna go back to work?

14 replies

Treadmillmom · 01/03/2011 21:19

Made redundant in 2005 12 weeks pregnant with baby no.3.
Fine with it really, an opportunity to enjoy pregnancy and older children so chose to be a SAHM.
DH in a very good job so no major financial worries.
November 2010 DH is made redundant; I see this as a perfect opportunity to go back to work.
Cannot find family friendly part time job so opt to temp and this has worked out fabulously, I've worked nearly every week and childcare all taken care of by SAHD.
Struck gold last week (I think), a long term temp contract till Oct '11 with local authority Weds/Thurs/Fri 9am - 3pm, yippee.
DH also lands a new job, great salary starts Monday.
Now the dilemma. I earn £7.50 per hour, average child-minder £4 per hour (1 child term time, 3 children holidays).
You don't have to be Carol Vorderman to work out it?s not really economically viable that I as an individual work HOWEVER:
My CV is now current.
I have my foot in the door of local authority.
I'm covering a maternity leave and she wants to come back P/T in Oct, job share opportunity.
I'm lurving working again.
Based on family income it is financially viable.
DH is not buying it, doesn't think it's worth me working, and thinks I'm '...stupid...as it's so obvious...'.
What do you think, are my reasons for working justifiable?

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FunnysInTheGarden · 01/03/2011 21:23

If you want to go back to work, then do. I needed to go back to work after DS2 was born to save my sanity. Its hard work as we both work FT, but my god I need it. BTW I was made redundant too and was out of work for 18 months. Being a SAHM did not suit me Grin

MrsPresley · 01/03/2011 21:23

Well whatever your left with is still going to be extra money isnt it?

As you say, you have your foot in the door, go for it!

PrincessScrumpy · 01/03/2011 21:24

Can dh get childcare vouchers through work? Make sure whether you are entitled to tax credits to help with childcare - you never know.

inkyfingers · 01/03/2011 21:25

It's really not about the money - it's about your career, keeping CV active, making contacts that might lead to something. Looking for a job 12 months on might be much harder.

Mare11bp · 01/03/2011 21:27

Reasons for going back to work do not start and finish with the financial. Go back to work and good luck to you.

GreenEyesandHam · 01/03/2011 21:28

Go for it.

mmsmum · 01/03/2011 21:29

I was going to say what are you asking us for? You had it all covered, but DH isn't for it. Well who cares? What's it got to do with him what you do while he's at work, is it going to make a huge different to him? I doubt it.

I would kill for that job, the pay, the hours and working for a LA, you'd be mad not to take it!

You should also look at tax credits, but DH your doing it and that's that it Grin

blueshoes · 01/03/2011 21:29

No brainer. Go for it.

Childcare costs are not forever. Your career will outlive childcare costs by decades. Don't waste the progress you made on the work front. In these times, you may not get an opportunity to come back into the workforce at a decent level for a long time. Keep your foot on the pedal.

mmsmum · 01/03/2011 21:30

but tell DH, I meant to say

scottishmummy · 01/03/2011 21:34

Congratulations on new job.yes ypu should work,fulfilling and adds to your confidence.adds financial stability to you and family

tbh,in grips of recession and LA cuts you're damn lucky to get any post

you need to think of longer term future and your needs

this isn't for your dh to "buy" or not.though im perplexed why he would undermine you? also given he has just landed good salary you should both share childcare costs

work is more than just money,is fulfilling, good role model and potential career route.broaden your choices and opportunities in a way that being a a housewife wont

plupedantic · 01/03/2011 21:40

The up-to-date cv is a big bonus. Your H is being a bit too dismissive of that, I think. Did he find being a SAHD difficult?

GotArt · 01/03/2011 21:40

Hi ho, hi ho, its off to work you go. Grin If it can be done with extra at the end, what's the problem. It benefits in the end on both fronts; financial and career.

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Treadmillmom · 01/03/2011 22:51

plupedantic he's loved being at home, really bonded with the kids on another level, and I gotta say he's been a great 'wife'. He and they are gonna miss each other so, so much.
I think he just feels I DON'T HAVE to work now as opposed to I WANT to work now.
Thank you for your thoughts though, it really is exactly what I've been feeling/thinking but needed reassurance that I really wasn't being unrealistic.

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plupedantic · 02/03/2011 10:09

Oh, that's a relief that he has no resentment about it. However, if he enjoyed it so much, there's always a chance he thinks you should enjoy it just as much. And not everyone does, or not all the time. It's worth discussing the "home" aspect of the job decision, in any case.

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