to want privacy in the shower?

[BeautifulBlondePineapple]

OK - I realise this is not a huge problem, but it's pissing both of us off on a daily basis.

So....which one of us is being unreasonable?

Every morning, at the same time, while I am in the shower, DH comes into the showerroom to put wax on his hair.

He has always had the same schedule and is used to doing this at the same time in the same place every day, but I am now getting up earlier since I have started back work and our morning routines collide over this tiny point.

I would like to lock the door on the bathroom so I can have a few minutes of peace & privacy (mostly for hair removal purposes!). But he gets pissed off if I have locked the door as he can't get in to wax his hair.

We have another bathroom (without a shower) that he could do his hairwax in. Or he could wax his hair after I have left the showerroom (10 mins max), but he has refused to do either and says I am being unreasonable and creating a big scene by not letting him in.

Am I? Or is he?

Ladies (and gents) please decide for us....

Privacy is important. Just because you live together doesn't mean that you don't have personal boundaries.

(We only have one loo though, so the only thing that has occasionally come up is my DP asking if it's ok for him to have a wee while I'm having a long bath. I don't mind as we have an opaque shower curtain. He knows that a No. 2 is entirely out of the question however!)

All my hair products are on my dressing table which I share with my DP, so this wouldn't be an issue anyhow. Could you set something up in your bedroom if the second loo won't do?

I guess it isn't just the hair removal aspect; he knows about all my hairy bits. But I'm also 5 months pregnant and a bit more body conscious than usual. And I hate the draught when the door opens & closes!

As for me changing my routine, well time is a bit tight in the morning. He gets himself ready & runs, but I have myself and 2 DCs (5 & 2) to get ready, 3 packed lunches to make and do whatever else I can manage (stick on a load of washing, empty dishwasher etc).

I'm going to ask again nicely tonight and see if he'll move the wax to the other bathroon (some Fish stuff - no Dapper Dan for him :)). It'll be better than waiting for another morning showdown. Maybe if I show him this thread it'll persuade him!

YANBU.

Nothing wrong with wanting to have a shower without someone else in the room and certainly nothing wrong with wanting to remove hair in private.

Why the hell can't he put wax in his hair in another room?

Agree with what Hassled said about routines.

YANBU, perfectly reasonable to want a bit of privacy and he should respect that. The problem could be easily solved by him keeping his hair wax in the bedroom or other bathroom!

Sorry, but having read your last post - WHY in the name of God are you having to do all that while all he does is get himself ready??

And you're pg again? Good God, woman, are you a glutton for punishment? This has to change before no. 3 comes along or you are going to end up dead of exhaustion before you even get to work, never mind having time to shave!

DO NOT ACCOMMODATE HIM ANY MORE!!!!

(sorry to shout, but we only have one DD and mornings are a joint effort in terms of breakfasts/dressing/lunches/dishwashing etc - how has he gotten away with this for so long? I was going to sympathise as DH has an unmoveable routine whereby he must brush his hair, with 'his' brush in 'his' bathroom before he leaves for work, and woe betide anyone or anything that stops him, but FFS, that's after he's dressed/fed/played with DD and/or sorted out bins/lunches/dishes! Have a word!)

Agree with Lovecat that he should be helping more in the mornings. How's he getting away with that?

If he's still home when you're showering, what could he squeeze in? Or he could sort out packed lunches and lay out clothes for the DC the night before.

It wouldn't bother me, but we are very uninhibited in our house. DS likes to come and sit on the bathmat and watch me shower 'because you are so lovely Mummy'

Two bits of advice

• get him to do his share of lunches/children etc.
• buy some Veet wax strips for your top lip and chin.