not to go to future BIL's stag do?

[Niceguy2]

I've been invited to go on my future brother in law's stag do.

It's basically a funky meal followed by drinks and the usual drunken antics. Thing is, its in London, the meal is £50 + drinks. My train ticket would be £58 and central london drinks aren't cheap. I'd only know 2 other guys there and I am teetotal anyway. So its a long way to go to drink coke.

I'm skint at the moment because of having to shell out for plane tickets for another wedding later this year and loads of other upcoming stuff.

AIBU to say no I don't want to go? And how can I put it nicely without sounding like I'm being a killjoy?

No-one is obliged to attend any occasion.

Just be honest - say cash is a little tight, and you have a lot on. Wish him a good fun day, and I'm sure he'll think nothing of it.

None of this makes you a killjoy.

Little while lie time- you are gutted to see that you have doublebooked with a prior appointment with old friend, rarely in the area... No shame to duck it, just sort out your own getting to know you time at another point with future BIL.

Perhaps sort out catching up for a beer/orange juice with him another time?

I ended up having a hen do and then going out for a meal with another couple of friends who understandably didn't want to travel up to Manchester being heavily pregnant. Both dos were fun!