to be pissed off that I wasn't invited to a family gathering?

[TigerFeet]

Browsing Facebook this morning during a fit of insomnia I find out that my cousin's baby was baptised yesterday.

My Mum and sister were there.

My aunt, who is also my godmother, travelled over from Australia - she is the baby's granny.

I had NO IDEA this baptism was even happening.

I had NO IDEA that my aunt was over from Aus. Last time my Mum mentioned her she said that Aunt was upset as she wanted to see the baby (obv) but wasn't sure she could afford the flights.

I would have loved to have gone, I have no idea why I wasn't invited. I live about 200 miles away from most of my family and don't see them outside of Mum and sister very often at all but we communicate via email and facebook and there is no rift (that I am aware of)

I am really really upset :(

Yes she's aware of how hurt I was, I told her straight. She has a history of forgettimg to tell me stuff but I have always let it go, this time I made it plain that it felt personal as it seems to have bothered me more.
Aunt is here till weds, I have been given a number but not sure it will work, i2ts the number she had before she moved to aus. Will try it anyway. Too late for me to get to see her now :(
Still very sad that NOBODY thought to check whether my family and I would be there.

Do you not have regular communication with your Aunt? Surely she would have mentioned the fact she was visiting if you did.

You seem to be expecting everyone to ring you, but dont say that you had rang anyone yourself recently and they hadnt mentioned these things?

I'm not in regular phone contact, no, but have been in touch with both aunt and cousin's dp via Facebook since the baby was born. Baby is only six weeks old. I spoke to my mum last week and she didn't mention it. I can't afford to ring aus, so contact with aunt has been electronic only for years. I asked her to let me know when she'd be in the UK as it seemed likely to me that she'd try to get over to see the baby. Last I heard she wasn't coming because money was tight.

I admit to not being in touch with my cousin, but it isn't so much the baptism per se that I was bothered about, I'm not self obsessed enough to think I should automatically get an invitation. It's more that the whole family was there, those who live in the UK anyway, other than my brother and me. I'm pissed off that I've now missed my aunt. I still think that it was assumed that my mum would let me know (thats the usual modus operandi) but my mum perhaps assumed that someone else would have mentioned it. The baby is still teeny, I wasn't expecting the baptism yet, it was pulled forward so that aunt could attend.

Just shows that
a) I can't rely on my mum to tell me everything that perhaps she should be telling me (but I already knew that)
And
b) yes I need to make more effort with my extended family, but that should go two ways, no?

My Mum & Dad had a BBQ a couple of years back and I saw the pics on facebook, my mum & dad were there along with all my brothers & sisters I was fecking fuming when I found out. Apparently they were having a small BBQ and the word spread through the family and everyone just turned up and no one bothered to invite me or my family. When I found out I was so hurt and my god I let rip to my parents about how I felt especially when I wasn't doing anything and would loved to have to gone.

I'd say it should definitely go two ways, particularly if you've just had a baby and are in the midst of all that baby fog and oddly, phoning up relatives to keep tabs on whether you're missing something isn't actually your highest priority.

Sorry it's made you feel like crap, I know exactly where you're coming from.