to feel like this!

[yummincepie]

I have just seen on facebook family pictures of an memoreial for my cusion who when missing last year. I am not close to my family but we stay intouch on facebook, is it wrong of me to feel totally devaststed I knew nothing about the service until 5 minutes ago, the service was the 26 jan

are they in the same country? as in, could you have easily attended?

I'm in england, them wales,

No that is sad

Maybe it was a case of everyone thinking someone else would have told you but because everyone thought that no-one actually did?

I'd still be upset but think I'd just need to have a cry to myself and what else can you do? His parents must be devastated and won't be thinking straight at all but I might want to send a card or a note saying I'd only just heard about it and I hoped that it went well. But only because I'd want them to know that's why I wasn't there, but logically I know they won't have noticed. That is a lot of buts!

you're not wrong to feel that way, but i doubt they meant to make you feel like it iyswim. maybe they thought you wouldn't be interested as you're not particularly close, or the distance, or it was for v close family/friends only...? how did you find out just now?