Outlaws AIBU?

[Mare11bp]

Offences include -

1)Barging into delivery suite with ds uninvited when I thought she was just going to be waiting outside, me with legs akimbo turning air blue thank god had a c-section and she was thrown out but hospital staff

2. Inviting themselves on holiday with us (MIL and rest of DP's siblings) even tho we were with friends and offered them another week where we could all go together

3. Being told my ds's nursery was shite (SIL, she knows a thing or two about childcare) said behind my back but overheard as I was in same room

4. DP being told by his mum not to put ds in nursery on one of my dp's days off in case he misses his first steps even tho the day had been paid for and non-refundable

5. Expressing surprise that I could understand my son's speech presumably because I am a working mum (SIL is not, neither was MIL)

I could go on but it get's boring.

Jeez, me and DP keep falling out about this, I don't expect him to challenge them but to support me behind closed doors would be nice. He is a mute when it comes to communication.

Would love to tell them all to sod off but can't bear to be turned into public enemy no. 1 and other members of the outlaws who I like then dislike me. Plus my son's needs of course.

Jeez, is there a way of controlling this thing? With my family we chat, argue, move on and it's all forgotten. But DP's family hold a grudge and never forget......

Number one is a definite no no, the others not so bad.

Really? Even the holiday thing? I must be really unreasonable.......anyone else with a view?

The holiday thing is terrible!

I think they're all awful examples.

Interferring, undermining and controlling.

And if you take it, you will be bending over and taking it for the rest of your life! It's really up to you, but I wouldn't bloody like it.

But you know, if you don't want to stand up to them, then you just have to accept it. Because they won't just decide to change. They'll only get worse.

It's a shame though, that you don't get the support of your husband. That must be difficult.

1 and 2 is awful and both times would have used choice words to tell exactly where to go. The other stuff IME is better to ignore as lets face it, do you honestly give a flying fuck what your inlaws think of your childcare arrangements? I don't care what my inlaws or anyone else thinks of mine.