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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that next doors kids

27 replies

tallulahxhunny · 27/02/2011 18:19

should play in their own half of the garden!!

It cracks me up! I dont allow my own kids to even walk on their grass but they allow their kids and their friends to run up and down the whole lot playing football. Angry

I dont want to say anything cos i just know they will take offense but its right outside my living room window and a ball smacking of the wall is not good. I live in a semi detached and its got a square bit of garden at the front which is for both houses so aibu to expect them to respect my bit?

Grrrr Grrrr and Fuck

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BarbarianMum · 27/02/2011 18:23

I think YABU to expect them to read your mind. If it is a problem for you then you need to say something.

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tallulahxhunny · 27/02/2011 18:28

there is no fence at all, im thinking about planting something to stop them

you are right barbarian mum but i can throw a mean dirty look, you would think they would take the hint!

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dwpanxt · 27/02/2011 18:31

I cant see any child stopping at a imaginary boundary during a wild game of chase or whatever so YADU.

How about putting some pots etc dotted around your half of the garden. A nice prickly plant or two will help keep them off your side.

HecateQueenOfWitches · 27/02/2011 18:34

You either have to say something, or put up a fence.

They're kids. they aren't going to give it a thought. And they certainly aren't going to interpret a 'look'.

FabbyChic · 27/02/2011 18:34

If there are no visible boundaries how do you expect the children to know it is your bit?

Make it your own if you are allowed and stop whinging.

mayorquimby · 27/02/2011 18:34

If the square bit of garden is for the use of both the houses then it's their garden as well.
If the garden is actually divided between the houses legally but you haven't put up a boundary then do so.

but
"I live in a semi detached and its got a square bit of garden at the front which is for both houses"
would indicate that it is a communal garden which you have simply decided that part of it is yours and part of it is theirs without any reason for this. and if this is the case then yabu

TheProvincialLady · 27/02/2011 18:39

Either say something or stop worrying about your kids playing on their grass. Can you set up a small fence or a boundary of some kind? This would drive me nuts too.

BooyFuckingHoo · 27/02/2011 18:43

how about just letting your dcs play on their side?

controlpantsandgladrags · 27/02/2011 18:47

we had the same problem until we planted a hedge to mark out the boundary.

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tallulahxhunny · 27/02/2011 18:58

they arent little kids, they are 10 and upwards.

i wont let my kids play on my side either btw lol, it just turns into mud and as its at the front of the house i can be a bit of a snob and worry how it looks [embaressed]

i should say we do have quite a big back garden but they have planted like hedges and bushes on theirs so their kids cant play football in it, mine is all grass and i let my kids play out there. i think they should have known that having boys as they do they would need somewhere to play football rather than planting bushes!

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TheCrackFox · 27/02/2011 19:05

Is is actually your garden (as defined by by the deeds) or a communal garden?

If it is your garden you need to put up a fence/hedge.

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tallulahxhunny · 27/02/2011 19:11

im not sure, but other people have like little paving things down the middle of their gardens so i assume its mine

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mayorquimby · 27/02/2011 19:12

once again, is it a communal garden which you have just decided should be split between the 2 or is it 2 seperate gardens which just happens to have no marked boundaries.
TBF this is the piece of information which would decide it for me.

mayorquimby · 27/02/2011 19:17

apologies. you'd answered before i finished writing my post.
Find out, if it's actually you're garden yanbu but put up some boundaries. If it's a shared garden yabu as it's as much theirs as yours

TheCrackFox · 27/02/2011 19:17

You really need to find out if it is your garden or not. If it is your garden then, no, they should not be playing on it.

If it is a shared garden then legally they can play on it. Although a word with their parents might help.

mumbar · 27/02/2011 19:29

I think I know what you mean. We have houses like this all over where I live. Semi's with front gardens that are actually just grass. The past 5/10 years people have started to add low wall boundaries, bushes, or mainly have their side paved as people tend to own more than 1 car nowadays.

These are seperate gardens for the houses by the deeds but once upon a time no-one worried about the fact.

It would drive me mad however. Wink

YANBU

Mollymax · 27/02/2011 19:31

It sounds like our front gardens, they are open plan and on the deeds it says you are not able to put up fences.
I do not let my dc play a ross the invisible line, but tbh they do not play out the front of the house.
What does annoy me tho is people delivering leaflets cutting across the gardens.

NurseSunshine · 27/02/2011 19:32

Why does it matter? Have you got special grass?

littlebylittle · 27/02/2011 19:36

Yanbu. We had similar when neighbour's toddler was constantly in our front garden peering into our house and playing on our grass. Our boundary is pretty clear - three foot wall, some shrubs and a gate (which we don't usually close, but still. Their boundaries were less defined with regard to their toddler-anywhere he wanted to go - too young apparently to understand!! I'm not prone to doing anything dubious I. My living room but still. I didn't say anything, just when we were on street together she eventually picked up that I didn't allow dd into other gardens without permission and did the same for our garden. If they're older you might need to say something.

lionlilac · 27/02/2011 20:21

I'd be inspired to build a rockery and plant fast growing evergreens!

Ephiny · 27/02/2011 20:27

It does sound like a shared garden. Unless you've agreed with the neighbours that you want to divide it down the middle, and put some sort of boundary in place, then you can't really complain.

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tallulahxhunny · 27/02/2011 21:22

Why does it matter? Have you got special grass?

Obviously not, I already said it goes all muddy and i dont particulary care for a muddy swamp outside my front door, im not fucking shrek

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BooyFuckingHoo · 27/02/2011 21:26

well if it is a communal garden (i.e; shared between the two houses) then you don't get overall say in what the part at your side looks like. it is a garden, it should be used as a garden. why did you take thsi house before checking out what you actually owned if you are so picky about things like this?

mmsmum · 27/02/2011 21:26

If it's front gardens and you can't put anything up then either you talk to the parents or live with it

If it's back gardens then you need to enclose yours to make it secure.