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to be angry and hurt i have been informed of my best friends pregnancy via a blanket text from her DH?

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superv1xen · 27/02/2011 15:04

my best friend has been trying for a baby for ages with her DH

if anyone remembers my other thread, this is the same friend whose DH is an absolute cunt i don't like or get on with due to him being a control freak, a perv and a lazy workshy bastard. we made up the other week, sort of :( but he is still trying to stop her seeing me or any of her other mates and i have only seen her once in 5 weeks Hmm

this morning i received a text from her twat DH saying "hello everyone, we are sooo happy to annouce we are expecting a new addition to the family in september xxxx", it was obviously a blanket text sent to several people at once. and bizarre he has included me in the text as he has told his DW he can't stand me and won't even "let" her have me in their house Confused

aibu to feel hurt that she has not contacted me personally to tell me? with both my pregnancies i either rang or met up with my close friends personally to tell them my good news. and the text wasn't even from her it was from her "D"H.

i want to congratulate her (even though i think she is mad for having a baby with such a twunt but thats a whole different story) as this is something she really wanted, but at the same time, i am not replying to his text to congratulate him because i hate him. and i can't really text or facebook her because he seems to see everything she gets sent via either.

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ShowOfHands · 28/02/2011 13:35

If she's due in Sept there's every chance she's 12 weeks and had a scan, hence the blanket text now.

Sounds like a v difficult situation.

Casmama · 28/02/2011 13:41

You assume that he has text lots of people because it starts "hello everyone" but if he is as twisted as you say then perhaps he just text you but put that deliberately to hurt you. She may not even know that he has done it and maybe wants to tell you in person.
I think the best thing you could do is contact her to congratulate her and be as nice as you possibly can to her dh - don't give him the satisfaction of seeing that he has got under your skin and don't give him any ammunition for disliking you.

YANBU to be hurt.

MadamDeathstare · 28/02/2011 13:52

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QuintessentialShadows · 28/02/2011 13:54

I have read your other threads. Sod her. She is not your best friend.

How did your wedding go?

Dropdeadfred · 28/02/2011 13:56

why wouldn't you phone her after news like this to congratulate her? and text him back a quick 'Congraulaions to you both x!

melonian · 28/02/2011 14:03

He sounds like an arse. How sad that your friendship is really suffering because of him. Even if you have to cool off the friendship please try and leave the door open for her in case he becomes really nasty and she needs you if it all goes tits up. Remember the risk of DV from controlling partners to pregnant women.

brizzagirl · 28/02/2011 14:08

Phone her for a catch up and to say congratulations, don't mention you are upset about the text but just focus on the good news. Fwiw my DH posted the news of my 2nd pregnancy on facebook before I had had a chance to phone all my close friends so I knew a couple had found out that way and I called them immediately! I was furious. I think your friend will need lots of support and might not be sure how you'll take the news if you don't like her DH so just call and arrange to meet if you can.

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