AIBU to not want to buy another bouncer chair because...

[CrapBag]

We had a lovely one when DS was a baby but he outgrew it at 4 months and I passed it on to a cousin.

I bought the Link a Doos Infant to Toddler rocker so it would last longer and we could use it in the future. £45 is a lot of money for me to spend on a chair but I figured it was worth the money because of the extra use we will get with it and it is far sturdier than standard bouncer chairs.

The cover had some mould on it and I took it off to wash it before it went in the loft, the frame went in the loft separately. Now we need it and all I can get out of DH is "I don't know where it is"

He put it up there, he has no idea where he stuffed it (like everything else up there that I have needed) but he won't even look for it. He told me to just buy another bouncer chair. Our finances aren't great, we manage but I don't want to waste money on a 3rd chair that we don't really need when I have a perfectly good one in my home.

I can't go and get it, I have had a CS and am suppose to be resting. I am fed up of asking him to get it. Yesterday I got a huffy "well I suppose I'll have to go and look for it, but I'll be there all day and it will be like looking for a needle in a haystack" but it is going to take many more times of me asking, yet again, for him to do it. DD is getting to the point where if she is awake, she doesn't want to just lay in her moses basket and wants to be up a bit more, looking around, which is obviously the point of the chair.

"but I'll be there all day and it will be like looking for a needle in a haystack"

Tough. He should have paid more attention to where he put it, so it's his own fault. No point in storing something for future use if you're not going to use it again, may as well have thrown it away.

I'd be putting "Sort out the loft" on his list of jobs too. You never know there might be something valuable stashed up there!

YANBU, there's no need to buy another when you have one already.

Is there not anyone else you could ask to pop up there for you? Your mum or dad, a brother or a friend? Don't go up there yourself though. You've given DH ample opportunity to do it himself so he has no right of complaint.

My DH procrastinates so much. I love him dearly but it's always "tomorrow" even though I tell him that tomorrow never bloody comes. He quickly got out of the habit when I would give him a reasonable amount of time and then either get someone else in to do it or do it myself.

What pjmama said.

lol

i remember a similar incident a few weeks ago.

we have a stupid ladder and i cant get in the loft (unless i risk killing myself)
I had a WHOLE batch of washable nappies up, that OH put up there, OH couldnt find them.

He said the only way to find them is to take everything out, so i said fine take everything out!

after the 3rd bad of crap (thats wasnt even ours was the people who used to live here) when OH realised that i meant, that everything out... he found them

and those 3 bags of someone elses rubbish (old manky damp duvets) went to the tip

Why do men do this!!!!

I am still waiting for him to fold the pram box flat and stick it in the loft. It is massive and totally blocking the back door. I am also waiting for the spare stair gate to go back under the sofa, I can't lift the sofa obviously, else I would just do it. Normally I have to start doing it for him to say "I was just about to do that" but these are things I can't start.

Like CBear6 tomorrow never comes for us either. He seems to have a problem with my nan doing our washing and bringing us food though. Now I don't ask him and just let her do it, she wants to help, I want to let her, no problem!

Problem over!!!

DH has just come downstairs with the cover!

He remembered it was in the back of his wardrobe!

I had no idea, he put it there obviously, but I have it so thats all that matters, and the bloody box is going in the loft this afternoon. Yay.