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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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For being jealous

18 replies

uptomyeyeballs · 27/02/2011 00:01

My sister won 95k on the Lotto 6 weeks ago, i am very pleased for her and her DH and 2 DC but would love a little "gift" to come the way of myself, my DP and 3 DS. She has not mentioned any gift and to be honest i am green with envy- am i a greedy cow ??

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foreverondiet · 27/02/2011 00:03

Yes you are a greedy cow but TBH if I ever won I wouldn't tell family unless I was going to give them gifts....

Numberfour · 27/02/2011 00:03

No, I think what you are feeling is natural. Well, it would be how I felt, so imo, YANBU.

Lucky sister. I am green with envy, too.

ilovemyhens · 27/02/2011 00:04

No, you're not greedy, but 95k isn't a complete fortune, so they can't be going around giving it away.

PepsiPopcorn · 27/02/2011 00:06

YABU. It's up to them I'm afraid.

Toygirl · 27/02/2011 00:09

If I won money, my DH and I have agreed we wouldnt tell anyone how much we got but would give gifts. Saves on arguments

BluddyMoFo · 27/02/2011 00:10

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battherat · 27/02/2011 00:12

Hm. Tricky. TBH YAB a little bit U but I think that they're being a bit mean by not taking you out for a nice meal or just buying you and your family a nice treat. It's not about how much they spend but just a sign that they would like to share a bit of their good fortune.

Grabaspoon · 27/02/2011 00:15

YABU - it's your sisters money - if she'd had a bonus at work would you expect a gift then too? :)

helenthemadex · 27/02/2011 00:18

its a nice win for them but not enough to share really so YABU but I would be jealous to so for that YANBU

SeeJaneKick · 27/02/2011 00:20

God no YANBU! If I won that amount I would give my sisters something for sure!

shinydiscoball · 27/02/2011 00:21

YANBU to be jealous, a natural reaction to be envious! But YABU to expect a hand out, it'd be lovely of her to offer or to treat you to something nice but isn't a given.

Do you have many others in the family or in her DH's family? Just thinking if they give you a gift where do they stop?

Celestialstarlight · 27/02/2011 00:25

YANBU. She is your sister afterall. Shame on her if she can't give a gift to her own sister and nephews after such good luck has been bestowed on her. I can't understand why people can be so unthoughtful and selfish tbh.

nailak · 27/02/2011 00:26

she one 95 thousand pounds? and she didnt give you a gift? or your kids at least? yanbu

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uptomyeyeballs · 27/02/2011 00:28

Hey, I never said i EXPECT a gift, just that i would love one!!

In answer to your question discoball, we are the only 2 siblings (our parents both died 6 years ago) and her DH has 1 brother living in Pakistan, they have little contact.

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AgentZigzag · 27/02/2011 00:31

Six weeks isn't that long ago, when's your birthday??

You're not BU to think about what you'd do with some extra cash, but you shouldn't let it come between you and cause a rift.

Be happy for her, I'm sure she'll know you're looking at her with longing eyes, but you wouldn't expect her to hand out cash to you in normal circumstances and this is no different.

shinydiscoball · 27/02/2011 00:36

Haha, well in your situation I would probably have BU and expected something if it was my sister!!

Hmm, well in that case if family is only small I would have thought an offer of some sort of gift would be forthcoming...maybe she's got a little carried away and "forgotten"?

FabbyChic · 27/02/2011 00:37

If I won anything if I ever done the lottery, none of my family would get a penny. The only ones who would see any money is my children after they have worked for five years and learnt how to manage money.

Tortington · 27/02/2011 00:38

i would be mightily jealous. in fact i am.

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