Basicly my DB spilit with his dp a few months ago. They have two dc's together (both under 3), Db has the dc's every other day, he works but will have them before and after work.
He always did a lot of the chilcare things when he wasnt at work i.e getting up with the dc's even when he had to get up for work, take over childcare as soon as he got in from work. They didnt have their own place and lived with exp's family due to money issues.
They spilt because db cheated, exp still wants him back tho.
I was friends with his ex when i was younger but sort of out grew her, thought she could be very rude, self centered and judgemental (a view held by our imediate family, neither parents or step parents ever liked her although were never rude etc)
So anyway db's ex has not broke away from our family yet, for example using our extended family to babysit, wanting to talk to family members a lot, ringing db for things that does not involve the dc's, she does have her own family btw, i dont get why she doesnt ask them.
Db does a lot concerning the children, has them loads, pays for them and tbh its not very amicable between them atm because of arguements about anything really.
So aibu to think that exp should be breaking away from our family?