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to demand DH gives me his wardrobe?

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TotorosOcarina · 26/02/2011 19:37

Background:

Medium to small bedroom. DH and I have a clothes wardrobe each, a free standing thingymybob each.

In the corner of the room there is a built in wardrobe.

We both keep our clothes in our own wardrobes.

This built in wardrobe has always been used for DHs 'stuff'

Now when I say stuff I mean crap.

This thing has been crammed full for years, its never opened. Maybe once every 6 months for him to put something in that will never see daylight again.

DC4 is due in 10 weeks, I have no room for a wardrobe for him,

AIBU to tell DH his stuff has to go in the attic and I'm using the space??

Have mentioned it a few times but hes avaoided the point.

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mmsmum · 26/02/2011 19:39

YANBU just put the stuff in the attic and see how long it takes him to notice!

FabbyChic · 26/02/2011 19:39

Ask him outright then where do I put the stuff that is in the wardrobe so I can use it.

Albeit not sure why a baby needs a wardrobe.

IreneHeron · 26/02/2011 19:41

Attics are for crap, wardrobes are for clothes, final answer.

diddl · 26/02/2011 19:43

YANBU.

"stuff" taking up valuable space is a crimeGrin

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TotorosOcarina · 26/02/2011 19:43

for his clothes fabby Confused

where else would they go?

our wardobes and drawers are full, they need to go somewhere - i've bought cheap used bundles so hes clohed up until 9 months already to save money.

I can't put it in the attic, i would kill myself on the ladder and am scared of the attic and its heavy stuff!

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TotorosOcarina · 26/02/2011 19:43

plus there might be.... spiders :(

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HecateQueenOfWitches · 26/02/2011 20:20

Silly question I suppose, but why do you even keep this stuff?

If it gets shoved in there, never to be seen again, then clearly it is not needed and could just be thrown away?

loubielou31 · 26/02/2011 20:21

Can you get a non pg friend round to chuck it all in the loft (what is the difference between a loft and an attic? Confused whilst he's out? £10 says he doesn't notice!

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TotorosOcarina · 26/02/2011 20:24

its 'collectable' stuff hecate, supposedly will be worth something when he decides to sell.

He will do it, I was just feeling a bit grumpy cause I'd like to irona nd sot some tiny baby stuff

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HecateQueenOfWitches · 26/02/2011 20:59

Ah. 'collectable'

You do know that it'll all be worthless shit, don't you? Grin

So, cos I'm nosy, what is it?

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TotorosOcarina · 28/02/2011 08:43

Its old figurines, marvel/comic type stuff.

He usually does make a good profit on what he sell TBH!

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Diablo82 · 28/02/2011 11:12

YANBU - Get some decent storage boxes with lids so that his stuff will not be spoiled, then ask hime to move it to the loft. He does not need to access it regularly.

KatieWatie · 28/02/2011 11:15

My mum had this problem when my brother refused to empty his old bedroom (even 15 years after moving out!) and solved it by transferring everything to the garage, waiting a year to see if he noticed or wanted it, and then after a year taking it all to the dump.

Do that!

melpomene · 28/02/2011 11:23

Also not sure why a baby needs a wardrobe. You don't need to hang babygrows on coathangers. All they need at first is a small set of drawers, surely?

Sounds like it wouldn't be unreasonable to get him to move stuff to the loft, though.

bronze · 28/02/2011 12:07

It doesn't sound like they have the space. I would use the wardrobe for one of you and get a chest of drawers too for baby but that doesn't solve the stuff in the wardrobe.
Attic it. Tell him to do it, giving hima warning of a time limit. Remind him regularly. Perhaps every wednesday and sunday for a few weeks and then dump it if he still hasn't got rid
Good luck

BikeRunSki · 28/02/2011 12:44

If the stuff in the wardrobe is so valuable,. why not sell it now and raise funds for DC4?

I periodically put DH's stuff in the roof, then throw it out when I coem across it later. HE had never noticed.

But be careful! - FIL's mum threw out his collection of football programmes - he'd been to every Sheffield United game for 20+ years, and matchbox toys, unscathed and in boxes. Both collections worth a fortune.

DS is 2.5 and has managed OK with just drawers.

AllGoodNamesGone · 28/02/2011 13:10

I would buy some nice storage boxes and offer to help him pack it up. Give him a deadline after which you will pack it then put it by his side of the bed and ask him to take it up to the attic.

I wouldn't throw any of it out. If it's a collection, he WILL know what is in there and you won't know which bits are worth anything and which are shite. I have a collection and believe me I would know if DH chucked a single item of it and I would very much notice if he threw it in the loft while I was out! I am sure other people would think it is shite but I love it (I do make sure it isn't in anyone's way)

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TotorosOcarina · 28/02/2011 15:17

We don't need any funds for DC4, everythings bought now.

Its stuff he will pass onto the kids to sell.

It looks like rubbish to me but when he buys something for £3 then sells it for £120 on ebay a few years later I'm not complaining!

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