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AIBU?

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to expect fil to lock the door when having a shower?

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ledkr · 26/02/2011 12:31

Ugh ugh my eyes are bleeding help me.
Pil are currently staying here against my wishes as had dd 4 wks ago and have infection in my c section scar.They seem to spend all morning "getting ready" to lounge around my house all day.I have an en suite but have been told to have baths due to my wound.I have been waiting to use the bathroom all morning whilst they enjoy a leisurly breakfast.At midday i thought it would be perfectly reasonable to use my bath.I opened the door to find fil in full glory showering.Wtf? Why didnt he lock the door?I have a sodding 8 yr old dd!
Am now cowering in my room too embarrassed to face him.
Many of you are familiar with my pil stories but surely i now qualify for some sort of award.

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ledkr · 26/02/2011 22:07

how marvelous for you mad dog

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2rebecca · 27/02/2011 00:12

I wasn't being prickly. I was suggesting your visitors could use your ensuite whilst you used the bathroom. I didn't understand why you felt you had to wait until after they had had breakfast and were up and dressed before you used the bathroom, and why you didn't just take a "the bathroom is free, I'm using it" approach.
In your OP you said you were waiting to have a bath whilst they ate breakfast. Surely if they are eating breakfast they aren't in the bathroom so you can use it? I didn't understand the problem.

MissyKLo · 27/02/2011 00:24

Oh ledkr you poor lady - how come they managed to leech their way ion staying? When are they leaving?

LessNarkyPuffin · 27/02/2011 08:42

Because she's being a polite host?

Probably too polite with these ILs. You need to put looking after your scar above being considerate. Just go and have your bath. Being careful to sluice away any suspiciouly gray pubes first

MrsLevinson · 27/02/2011 10:05

I'm not familiar with your other threads but feel for you anyway. I walked in on my step FIL having a shit - he shouted at me to get out, even though he hadn't bothered to lock the door. I have never quite got over it. :)

madonnawhore · 27/02/2011 10:09

OMG they sound so annoying!! Feel for you.

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ledkr · 27/02/2011 10:09

good grief my op was a slightly light hearted take on my previous well known probs.It asked should he lock the door,not why i hadnt carried out certain things that morning?
I dont know about anyone else but when i have had a baby and am night feeding etc i do relish the weekends to rest as you are told to do and was up several times that night so after she settled at 7am we all went back to sleep.The pil couldnt use my en suite as a,the shower is broken and b,baby was still asleep in cot in the room.If it bothers you so much then hide the thread fgs,are you always this straight?
Hi Mrs klo am hoping they will be on their way soon,it hasnt been too bad tbh dd1 has enjoyed it and i didnt cook etc well only a bit to help dh.

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Georgimama · 27/02/2011 10:11

I don't get this either. Why does it make you a polite host to hang about endlessly whilst other people fanny around? They're eating breakfast - you go in the bath with a cheery "I'm just going for a bath, use our ensuite if you want".

I hope you didn't make them breakfast. Their purpose in being there is surely to help you, not create extra work for a woman recovering from surgery.

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ledkr · 27/02/2011 10:11

thanks btw those of you who have taken this the way it should be.

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Georgimama · 27/02/2011 10:13

If the ensuite was broken they can just wait, can't they?

You're clearly tired and pissed off with the in laws. Don't take it out on us. Also tip for the future: never allow house guests into your home without a fixed date as to when they are leaving.

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ledkr · 27/02/2011 10:17

I may need to write an itinary i think.There is nothing to get.I merely thought he should have locked the door to save embarrassment.The timescales and length of time were irelevant but basically mil in bathroom-for ages then a pause but i was seeing to baby then by the time i went for my bath the fil was in there again for ages.We had all got up late as people do at weekends so the timescale was late.Have soem of you forgotten how difficult it is to find slots when you have a newborn especially one with big health problems?

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ledkr · 27/02/2011 10:19

haha you were the one who came onto a clearly funny thread being all serious i am tired and pissed off and i suggest you take the time to find out what we have all been thru the last few weeks before you start being aggressive.

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Georgimama · 27/02/2011 10:33

I'm not being aggressive. I imagine you have been through the mill in the last fews weeks, which is why I'm wondering why you've got a houseful of in laws who seem to expect 5 star service and you can't even get in your own bathroom. Up to you.

Dylthan · 27/02/2011 15:55

I think you would really have to read the other threads to "get" this one.

By the sounds of things ledker is doing the bare minimum compared to what is usually expected of her and I for one am glad that this visit by the in laws appear to of gone alright apart from this one hilarious hiccup.

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