to want a hol with my boyfriend

[Spuddybean]

i am going on hol with my boyfriend in March (first one in ages and he has worked away 7 weeks since xmas so a real chance to be alone together) for 11 days.
My dad knows people who live relatively near where we are going so as told them. They are now calling asking which hotel we are staying at and what our dates are.
I know it's sweet of them to want to see us but we just want time alone.
When my dad asked for our hol info i said i wasn't happy spending our 10 precious days with his mates and he put the phone down on me saying was a 'nasty piece of work'. Then after explaining to mum she said she'd speak to him. The next day she called and said he'd understand.
Then dad called again last night saying his friends had called again asking for hotel/travel info as they were going to plan a hol around ours!!!

YANBU. Your dad is!!! The idea of spending precious holiday time with parents friends is, frankly, something that would send a chill down my spine.

Stuff that! lol... why would strangers want to intrude on your holiday..

I would say you have changed your plans or it is allocation on arrival so you wont know where you will be staying till you get there.

Whatever you do just don't hand over the details. How utterly awful!!

Maybe he doesn't like the idea of his DD having a sex life and is trying to rope his mates in to scupper it...

at hissyfit that sounds like something my fil would do!

i have said to my mum (the more reasonable of the two) that if they give me friends phone no i would text with a specific day at a specific lunch time at a specific restaurant. i will say i will be there at that time and if they want to see me thay can. all other dates/times/places are off!
i am just so cross to have been put in this situation. I have been looking forward to this hol for months and now i am associating it with stress. My boyf will not be impressed, dad will be angry with me and i will be forced to offend someone i hardly know!

Do you even know these people??

If you hardly know them then WTF are they going to get out of it anyway? Sounds very to me

i have known dad's mate for years as an acquaintance. his wife i have met once and his mate who he is going to use our hol as an excuse to bring along, never. My boyf has never met any - we haven't been together long. but the mate of dad's also worked with (and loved) my ex-husband, and this would also make it really uncomfortable for me.

Blimey.. I thought you were about 19 from the way your dad was behaving.. obviously not if you have been married before.

Seriously, just say you havent finalised the holiday yet, and dont know exactly where you are staying.

Hopefully your mum will have talked some sense into your overprotective and interfering dad by then! :)

i'm34!! dad knows we have booked the hotels already cos i showed him the brochures. we have been planning this trip since october - knowing we would be apart so much we have been looking forward to it since before xmas.
i understand dad's discomfort - he told his mate i was doing this amazing trip, then the guy say's 'ooh that would be a great excuse for us to go there too' so dad said he'd let me know etc. Now it's all spiralled into the friend calling and asking for all the details.

Looks to me like your dad thinks it'll reflect on him somehow if you don't do as he suggests.

It's a bit weird that this bloke is so quick to intrude into your holiday without any measure of how you feel about it.

Unless that's just the way your dad's relayed it, and it was him who made it seem as though you were up for it and the bloke just fitted in?

I'd leave your dad to it and get on with what you want to do, box it up in your head somewhere and don't let it spoil the build up to your holiday.

i'm glad everyone has said this - thanks guys.

I thought you may all say how selfish i was being etc!