Went round to pil today for tea sil and neice were also coming round. I commented I'd forgotten ds2s booster seat and mil said to ds2 oh you dont want that do you you're a big boy now. Later table was set complete with best china cutlery etc. I said wheres ds2s plates. He has a lovely set that he has always usedwhen visiting pil but mil said no everyone is being treated exactly the same as everybody else he's 3 and a half yrs old he's a big boy now! She repeated this and when I said we dont at home she said well its just aswell he goes to grandmas to be treated like a big boy. He even had normal cutlery. He then struggled with a big spoon that was meant for desert but he used for his dinner. Fil said isnt that a big big for him. Mil said no he's fine and I said yes it is can you get one of his mil told fil no get a tea spoon which he did. Why??
Later ds2 asked for milk. Mil gave it to him in a china cup. Ds2 asked for the bob the buildercup with straw mil said no have that one you're a big boy etc! He refused to drink it.
When we left the table ds2 asked for milk again. Mil said you've not drunk you last milk yet and ds2 asked for bob the builder cup again I could see a tantrum beckoning and I said come on mil he has childrens cups wtih straws at home and with a sigh she finally relented. So aibu to be perplexed and bbemused as why mil wants to treat ds2 as such a "big boy" when he is only 3.3 years old?