in telling dp to stick flowers up his arse.

[MixedClassBaby]

By way of apology (silly row, details irrelevant), dp has just presented me with a small bunch of supermarket carnations.

AIBU in thinking that he could not have found a crapper bunch of flowers if he'd tried and telling him to stick them up his arse. Or am I, as he asserts, being an ungrateful spoilt brat. He says that they were all they had left in the shop which I believe supports my argument that they are bollocks.

It's the thought that counts. Not much of a thought there mind you.

I think you are being ungrateful.....

Sounds like you are deliberately trying to prolong the argument, tbh. He's tried to make amends, what do you expect, dancing cats and an orchestra?? Unless he is generally horrible to you, YABVVU

YABU (sorry) At least he's trying. If you expect grand gestures after every silly row you'll either be disappointed or bankrupt in a couple of years. He made the effort, maybe you should too.

Hmmm. Call me super sensitive, but I am picking up from your post that you are not really over the row. Resist shoving flora up his rectum at this time, because you might regret it.

YABU and ungrateful. It's the apology that matters, any gifts are a bonus.

YABU. I love carnations.

YANBU. A proper bunch of flowers mate - from a florist, not collected along with your petrol and kitkat at the cash register. A crap bunch is an insult imo, petrol on flames.

Olivetti, I like the sound of the dancing cats

We're no longer arguing, it's become more of a discussion about the flowers food-chain. He reckons that flowers are flowers. I reckon some flowers aren't worth paying £1.99 for.

So how much does he need to spend before you think he is being properly contrite? Does he need to provide a receipt?

And, out of interest, what do you do to apologise after a row?

A bunch of flowers is a bunch of flowers. I think you might be in danger of being the tiniest bit precious - sorry.

I do like Olivetti's suggestion of dancing cats, though. Next time DH cocks up I'll demand them.

It was an olive branch.

It could have been a bunch of snowdrops from the garden - it really isn't about the type of flowers or where they are from.

It was a peace offering.

You've thrown it back in his face and made a silly row into something much bigger.

YABU. Sorry.

I'm not a fan of carnations. However, I tend to melt if DH brings me a flower from the garden, so can't really see the problem.

It's not a peace offering, it's an incitement, a passive aggressive, martyr bunch of snideness.

Yabu

I love flowers so any and all are welcome in my house. Though, if anyone who might row with me is reading this, I prefer Oriental lilies, freesias, lysianthus and white roses. :)

YABU to be so ungrateful when my house is currently a flower-free zone!

oh just kiss and make-up. i never ever got flowers after an argument. i would have loved that he was sorry enough/wanted to end the argument enough to go and buy them.

Lol @ Hully - that's one way of looking at it!

There's really isn't a bigger row going on. I just honestly would prefer no flowers to carnations. But thanks for the responses, it seems IBU.

I'll tell dp that he can take the flowers out of his arse now and I'll find a nice vase instead.

At least you know you'll never get carnations again!

Does he try to control you in other ways?

You're going to have to leave him.

They are shite flowers, but there did appear to be some sort of thought behind them. Are you still cross about the argument at all?

Dancing cats sound like a genius way to show you're sorry. Olivetti, how many to a troupe?

Classic stockholm syndrome, hully, I'm in denial.