Not to pay my sister to babysit?

[NacMacFeegle]

I am starting up a business - been out of work a while and no prospect of more, so currently building up clientèle etc.

Sister took the kids for 2 hours yesterday so I could work.

Got an irate message from DM asking why I hadn't paid her.

She's 26, not a teen.

AIBU?

No, YANBU. DH and I (no DC's) often babysit for friends. And we're talking an all day thing or a late night here and there. They will then invite us round for Sunday dinner or BBQ's etc. as a way of paying us. I dont think i'd be comfy with taking cash from friends, let alone family.

Maybe your DM just assumed you knoew about Dsis's financial situation and assumed you would be paying her?

Iron it out with Sis and then speak to DM.

I think it depends on the circumstances.

If money wasn't discussed and it was a one off, then assume no payment - so YANBU. I looked after my DNiece and DNephew before I had kids and I would have been mortified if my Dsis thought for one second that I wanted paying.

I agree unusual to pay relative for one off babysit.

If its a regular thing, then need to discuss and maybe.

If my family baby sit of an evening while I am out I don't pay because that's just give and take in a family situaion.
If my sister (24) has my DD while I am at work however I do pay her. I don't think it's fair that she enables me to work and earn by looking after my DD by not working herself..

YANBU

I would be horrified if either my sister or I charged each other for babysitting each others children. We are family and it's a pleasure to help out and spend time with our nieces and nephews.

YANBU, my brother who is 29 has no dc of his own often babysits for us to have an evening out my dd's are 6 and 2. we do not pay hin nor does he expect it

YANBU

I used to have my brothers 2 children a couple of weekends a month before I had my own. Then they still came, but just a little less.

I never expected any money.Only thing my brother would do was bring their nappies/formula etc. I provided all meals as well, used to do casseroles as they were really cheap to make,plus as they got older we would make pizzas etc.

The only time my brother would give me nappies is if they hadn't had time to go and get them nappies or extra formula which I did accept but this was rare anyway.

Don't babysit anymore though now- only cause I live further away and my brother split with his ex 4 years ago so obviously when he has the children at weekends he wants to spend time with them. Did have them before christmas with my other baby nephew so he could go on a work night out though.

NO MONEY EXCHANGED HANDS