To ask the question, is it true that…

[ARepleteHmmSkiNun]

Gay people, if they have children, would prefer them not to be gay?

Is it in some way a "bad" question? I asked this on a another thread and bam, it disappeared.

Gay people are just people who happen to have a sexuality that is different to the majority.

The question you are asking has no relevance to that, and so seems ignorant IMO.

I believe that most parents, whatever their sexual orientation, would prefer their children not to be gay. There are many reasons, but the prejudices and ignorance that they will encounter throughout life would be enough for even the most understanding.

To me it's the same as wanting a brunette DD, something I can do nothing about but would save her from blonde jokes.

I think if they have had a particularly rough time with prejudice, they would hope their child would not have to experience the same.

What Grandmaster said.

As it is only relatively recently (1960's) that being gay is no longer regarded as a crime, I would suspect more to do with worry over other people's perceptions.
Sadly its still the case in our society, that if gay parents, have children that turn out to be gay, then its somehow seen as 'their' fault - almost as if the gay parents pushed the child in some way. The fact its all down to nature not nurture is conveniently bypassed by a certain chunk of society.

I want my DC to be healthy, happy and grow to be well rounded fulfilled adults. Their sexuality is irrelevant to this.

I would imagine this is the same for many parents, regardless of their own sexuality.

I imagine that might be the case for some people but probably only because they don't want their kids to experience homophobia, so it's not because they don't want them to be gay because gay is wrong.

Can't imagine this thread will be around for long either OP

Yawn

What BerylStreep said.
I'm a gay parent, it comes with its own challenges but so does everything else. As long as DD is happy in her sexuality that's all that matters.

Can I ask why you're asking, SkiNun?

Brace yourself, cos this is radical, but gay people actually have different views on things. They are not the homogeneous other to be dissected. Mind blowing stuff I know

Sensible answers thanks all. I expected a lot of bile and hate tbh and all I got was a little advice to brace myself.
Alice as I said I asked in another thread and it was removed so I assumed it was a question not allowed on these boards and just wanted to check,
Personally I don't find gayness or gay issues interesting.

I could not give a flying fig what sexuality my children are. I am personally straight with loads of gay friends, my best friend (Lesbian) is due her second baby any day now. I really dont think they care at all what sexuality the baby will be

Personally I don't find gayness or gay issues interesting.

So why are you repeatly asking this question then?

I wouldn't particularly care what my child's sexuality was, but I wouldn't want them to be the victim of any kind of prejudice or feel distriminated agaist for any reason at all, so if being gay causes them an issue that's the only reason I'd worry

My best friends are all gay and have seen so much prejudice towards them and me for allowing my child to be amongst them that soemtimes I do wonder how I would react to ti.

I hear so many people say that they would be gutted if their DS/DD told them they were gay but the more I think about it, I do think that yes there would be a sweeping moment where I would think about missing out on GC and the hassle he would get but then I remember that now these things are getting less common thankfully.

I think it is daft to say that you would'nt have any problems with it at all as I don't believe even the most open minded person would'nt have a flash of 'dissappointment' (for lack of a better word) that would pass is a bit ignorant and unrealistic in my opinion anyway.

And as I say I know and love a lot of gay people personally but it's not the path I would pick for my DS. But it's not up to me and I won't care either way what he does as long aashe is happy with his decision.

My best friends are all gay and have seen so much prejudice towards them and me for allowing my child to be amongst them that soemtimes I do wonder how I would react to ti.

I hear so many people say that they would be gutted if their DS/DD told them they were gay but the more I think about it, I do think that yes there would be a sweeping moment where I would think about missing out on GC and the hassle he would get but then I remember that now these things are getting less common thankfully.

I think it is daft to say that you would'nt have any problems with it at all as I don't believe even the most open minded person would'nt have a flash of 'dissappointment' (for lack of a better word) that would pass is a bit ignorant and unrealistic in my opinion anyway.

And as I say I know and love a lot of gay people personally but it's not the path I would pick for my DS. But it's not up to me and I won't care either way what he does as long aashe is happy with his decision.

My best friends are all gay and have seen so much prejudice towards them and me for allowing my child to be amongst them that soemtimes I do wonder how I would react to ti.

I hear so many people say that they would be gutted if their DS/DD told them they were gay but the more I think about it, I do think that yes there would be a sweeping moment where I would think about missing out on GC and the hassle he would get but then I remember that now these things are getting less common thankfully.

I think it is daft to say that you would'nt have any problems with it at all as I don't believe even the most open minded person would'nt have a flash of 'dissappointment' (for lack of a better word) that would pass is a bit ignorant and unrealistic in my opinion anyway.

And as I say I know and love a lot of gay people personally but it's not the path I would pick for my DS. But it's not up to me and I won't care either way what he does as long aashe is happy with his decision.

My best friends are all gay and have seen so much prejudice towards them and me for allowing my child to be amongst them that soemtimes I do wonder how I would react to ti.

I hear so many people say that they would be gutted if their DS/DD told them they were gay but the more I think about it, I do think that yes there would be a sweeping moment where I would think about missing out on GC and the hassle he would get but then I remember that now these things are getting less common thankfully.

I think it is daft to say that you would'nt have any problems with it at all as I don't believe even the most open minded person would'nt have a flash of 'dissappointment' (for lack of a better word) that would pass is a bit ignorant and unrealistic in my opinion anyway.

And as I say I know and love a lot of gay people personally but it's not the path I would pick for my DS. But it's not up to me and I won't care either way what he does as long aashe is happy with his decision.

My best friends are all gay and have seen so much prejudice towards them and me for allowing my child to be amongst them that soemtimes I do wonder how I would react to ti.

I hear so many people say that they would be gutted if their DS/DD told them they were gay but the more I think about it, I do think that yes there would be a sweeping moment where I would think about missing out on GC and the hassle he would get but then I remember that now these things are getting less common thankfully.

I think it is daft to say that you would'nt have any problems with it at all as I don't believe even the most open minded person would'nt have a flash of 'dissappointment' (for lack of a better word) that would pass is a bit ignorant and unrealistic in my opinion anyway.

And as I say I know and love a lot of gay people personally but it's not the path I would pick for my DS. But it's not up to me and I won't care either way what he does as long aashe is happy with his decision.

LoveBeingAKnockedUp

Duh, I've explained twice. To see if it was a banned question

Upyoudiva, the missing out on GC is MUCH less likely nowadays.

SkiNun, I don't think there is anything particularly interesting about gayness in itself, just as straightness isn't that interesting either.