to be so damn glad I have a amazing friends

[BlueCollie]

I'm off work as an A and E nurse with PTSD following my DS awful near killing me birth. I have been feeling utter shite the past few weeks. Money very tight, no fun in my life blah blah blah. In the past week I have had friends be just fab without me moaning. One has bought me a Cobb and another came round with a bottle of wine even though she doesn't drink it. Small things but have made me happy and a tad emotional that they..well just thought of me. Life may be shite but with good friends it is a lot easier.

Hear hear :-)

ain't that fab

that is good of your friends. I also have fantastic friends around me. I have had to come up to Scotland twice in the past few weeks as my Father is very ill in hospital and my friends have rallied round at home to help my DH with the childrens school run, dropping off and this week they have helped again. It makes you realise who your friends are at times of dire need.

I value mine very very much. And will be depositing large bunches of flowers and wine in their hands when I go back down to England.

glad to hear it. I have amazing friends too. But you have to be a good friend to have them so you must be too!

You are right curiousmama I am a good friend too and help mine out when needed. Its about give and take isnt it?

yes it is Jax. No one wants to be around miserable selfish feckers

You are so lucky, I am happy for you and it's nice that you appreciate them so much, I'm sure they appreciate you too. I've never had friends like that.

Hope you recover from your ordeal soon and can get back to work, although I understand why your job is so difficult. Focus on the important stuff, you and ds are still with us, and will be for a long time to come

Thats fantastic. I do too, I may not have many friends, just a handful, but the friends I have are amazing too, really lovely salt of the earth type people, more than make up for having loads of fairwearther friends.

bluecollie I am totally with you, I have ptsd for other reasons, and without the network of friends I can lean on I am certain that as a family we would be totally in the shits by now.
Friends happy to do school run at no notice, other friends happy to come and gently get me out of bed and dressed. And other friends who are happy to come and hold my hand when they know I just can't get out of bed.

Friends are awessome, and it only takes one good one.

I certainly found out who my friends were when DD was dx, during her illness and after she died. They were not the people I expected either.

I remember after we had been in hospital for 6 weeks, the house was a tip because my OH had been looking after the boys, working and he has MS.

Two of my friends - one I had only met at work, the other I hardly knew as she was my DD's friend's mum - came round and helped me strip the place.

We cleaned everything they even indulged my need to hang the children's clothes on hangers that were the same colour as the clothing [mad face]

One of them came and registered DD's death, helped me sort out her funeral. They both plus one other came with me to pick up her ashes.

Its only now that I am able to think about how difficult it must have been for them.

I hope you are able to get through this time with the help of your friends Blue

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It must have been a very difficult time for you and I am glad you had friends there for you. Friends are so important and when I sue the Dr's arse off I will be treating mine to food and wine to say thank you for all the little and big things they have done for me. I find it sad that some people don't have friends like mine.

Friends make all the difference. I hope you get the result you want