to scream, shout and tell the little buggers that I hate them?

[AtYourCervix]

My children are driving me nuts.

I shouted a lot and told them i hated them.

AIBU?

no

Yes.

Shouting: ok.

Saying you hate them: not ok.

YABU

you hate the behaviour, yes?

yes - never say you hate them, you can say you really don't like them or their behaviour - but to say you hate them is a bit mean.
I know you don't hate them anyway. It IS just their behaviour!

yabu. Very. No matter how wound up I got I could never tell my dc I hated them, that is awful. And yes, the judgey pants are firmly on. I've had the week from hell as far as my dc's behaviour is concerned. Still wouldn't shout or say that.

YANBU to shout at the little blighters.

YABU to tell them you hate them.

Even though you don't mean it, it introduces a measure of doubt into their heads.

It really hurts when someone who loves you tells you they hate you. Even when you know they don't and they are just caught up in their own anger. So yabu I'm afraid.

so everybody here says exactly what they mean all the time even when they are absolutely furious?

see! I knew I was.

Have a big drink of your wine, then tell them "sorry, of course you don't hate THEM, but you do hate all the bickering etc." Then give them both a hug, then do something together to cheer you all up ie go out for a walk and chips, or watch a dvd, or play cards together.

We all have our moments OP and everyone does things that they regret. Hell, noone is perfect, even thought we all try our best, sometimes it's all just a bit much. So yes, the hate thing is regrettable, best not to say it again but at the same time, don't over anaylse it. It's happened, nothing you can do now, just start again with a fresh outlook tomorrow.

YABVU to tell them you hate them even in anger-they'll remember it-my mum did it to me all the time :( you hate their behaviour and should be qualified as such. Am not most amazing mum but try not to shout-means they've won the battle for a start! Try to get down on their level, and I speak more quietly if anything-makes them listen. Sorry for judgey pants rammed firmly up but really think not acceptable. But hey, tomorrow is another day, and a chance to put right....

Too late for a walk and chips lol I seem to have mislaid a few hours somewhere-do that tomorrow instead!!

Also agree with may queen

YANBU to shout, VERY U to say you hate them, hope you only said that in your head! IF not you really do need to apologies to them, explain that their behavious was bang out of order but hate is not a nice word to use.

At your cervix-saw your other thread-hope you don't feel flogged! :)

Yes