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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to think that this person or her friends need slapped?

30 replies

maighdlin · 24/02/2011 21:37

I met with my mentor this afternoon at university. We usually meet at the coffee shop at were sitting talking away. We were at a table and beside it was a table with two sofas and a few girls sitting chatting. The was a bit of commotion that we noticed and then the girls left. A member of staff came over and was saying to my mentor what had happened. Apparently one of the girls had been sick over the sofa and the floor. One of her friend shouted out to the staff member "she has been sick." they then just left a pile of sick over the place. I was disgusted. Not at the being sick part, but the fact that they had just thought they could tell a staff member and walk out.

AIBU in thinking that that is just not on? Obviously the girl was sick and had to leave but surely one of her friends would have made a bit of an effort to help clear up. Why is it the sole responsibility of the staff? Even an apology or something, but leaving a pile of sick and expecting someone else to clear it up??? I'm completely shocked at this. I was sick many times in public places when pregnant but i would never have just got up and left it, even when i was somewhere on my own.

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MadMaggie · 24/02/2011 21:42

You think they need slapping? Are you always so violent

princessparty · 24/02/2011 21:43

I think YABU,

  1. what did you expect the girl to clean it up with? 2)she was probably too poorly 3)I would expect the cafe to clean it up TBH
maighdlin · 24/02/2011 21:43

a figurative slap.

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FabbyChic · 24/02/2011 21:45

I would also expect the Cafe to clean it up with implements/tools/cleaning products they would have to hand. How would she clean it? With what exactly?

Health and safety would dictate she cannot use the Cafe's equipment, maybe a quick trip to Tesco's was in order to procure such cleaning products before she threw up again.

maighdlin · 24/02/2011 21:46

I don't expect the girl who threw up to clean it, but she was with a load of friends, I don't mean that they should get rubber gloves on and get scrubbing on their hands and knees, but not even an apology.

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squeakytoy · 24/02/2011 21:46

I think the friends should have gone and had a quiet word with a member of staff, not just shout it out...

AngryBeaver · 24/02/2011 21:46

er,ok Hmm

(ps yabu)

FudgeGirl · 24/02/2011 21:48

Um, it's not the friends' responsibility to clean it up.

Why would it be? It wasn't their fault she was sick!

YABVU

MogadoredMemoo · 24/02/2011 21:50

When I was pregnant with dd I was sick so many times in public places. It would come on me so suddenly I wouldn't have chance to get to a loo or out of a shop. Would you have slapped me? cos I'd have slapped you back twice as hard

cory · 24/02/2011 21:52

tbh I do think it would make better sense for the cleaning up to be made by the people who had access to cleaning products-

BabyDubsEverywhere · 24/02/2011 21:53

No way would i clean up my mates sick!

maighdlin · 24/02/2011 21:54

i think it was just the whole attitude towards it that annoyed me, i mean no-one wants to clean up sick but it was the whole "leave it its someone else's problem" way they seemed to do it. It just seemed so bloody rude and degrading to the staff.

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usualsuspect · 24/02/2011 21:57

Cafe workers don't get paid enough to clean up sick

maighdlin · 24/02/2011 21:58

Mogadored i was the exact same when i was pregnant. I was sick everywhere, in tescos etc, but i would never have dreamed of just leaving it. i would have ran to the loo and at least apologised to someone after.

I don't think "slap" was the right word i should have used. used in the way i would use the phrase "they need a good slap" as in "their behaviour is not ok" i don't actually go about slapping people. I have never hit anyone in my life its just a phrase.

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iscream · 24/02/2011 22:00

No, I don't think her friends were responsible to do more than let staff know.

usualsuspect · 24/02/2011 22:12

Would you clean up sick for minimum wage ? its not in my the job description

mercibucket · 24/02/2011 22:16

what did you expect them to clean it up with?

yabu unless you are objecting to the way they spoke to the staff - if it was a bit 'minion, clean up this mess' then yanbu

maighdlin · 24/02/2011 22:18

That's my point it was a bit "minion clean up this mess".

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Cher87 · 24/02/2011 22:20

YANBU, I too would not dream of just up and leaving after being sick in a public place!
I would at least attempt to help clean up no matter if I was feeling poorly!
I for sure wouldnt be happy if I worked in that cafe!

pinkstinks · 24/02/2011 22:22

I work in our uni SU, and although I am not a cleaner, they have many a time found girls covered in their own shit in the toilets.
Last week a boy ran into the girls toilets, did a poo and left.
I guess my point is...it could have been worse? especially for the poor cleaning staff...

unfitmother · 24/02/2011 22:32

I had to clean up vomit as a teenage waitress. The one I remember the best was as I was on my hands and knees cleaning it up, the person who puked just stepped over me without saying a word.
And, no, he didn't leave a tip!

Penelope1980 · 24/02/2011 23:12

YANBU. I think they should have at least hung around to make sure it was cleaned up, and at the very least should have been sorry. It comes down to how much they respect service staff, and by just walking out it's clear they don't

sugarrushed · 25/02/2011 00:10

YANBU People who work in cafes are not skivvies who should just be expected to clean up vomit or any other bodily by products. I'm damn sure I would have made an effort to clean it up myself. As someone who works in the food service industry its not great for food hygiene purposes to be exposed to something that is probably riddled with food poisoning bacteria!!!

Bogeyface · 25/02/2011 08:56

YANBU

I would atleast offer to help clean it up, ask for a cloth etc.
If they are kids that have not long left home then they are probably still expecting Mummy to pop out of the woodwork and do it.

bupcakesandcunting · 25/02/2011 08:58

YANBU that is disgusting. I threw up at work once anad at least made noises about helping clean it up, even though the cleaner shoo-ed me away...

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