to not do facebook?

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never have and probably never will,love mn and the web in general but never started facebook and when i see the shit it sometimes causes im glad i didnt.
I cant be the only one surely.DH and i were talking this am about probably having to set one up when dd's are older to keep an eye on their net activity.

I have an account but dont really use it. I have had several comments when people find out i am pg along the lines of "Oh, I didnt see it on your FB"

Why would you?! I dont live my life on there and fail to understand why some people put every detail on there. I dont put kids photos on there either, much to the annoyance of several people.

Entirely up to you.

I have one as I am abroad & it´s an easy way to keep in touch/post pics.

And I only have people I want to keep in touch with as friends.

But when I look at it & see some of the dross that people post I have thought-good grief, do I really know that person & it has made me think should I just go back to sending emails.

I never wanted to go on FB, but then they improved their security so I caved in. And tbh, it's bloody useful - but only because I am in Australia and most of my friends and family are still in the UK. Excellent for sharing news and photos; and it's good for the group of mums I have got to know locally as well - we can arrange meet-ups, share photos (we have set up a private group for our playgroup) and info on places to go etc.

It has its uses when used properly/safely!

I was on FB until I fell pregnant as the hoohaa that went on with our wedding was bad enough-apart from bad (really bad) photos being posted up everywhere from the day-I felt that the 200+ 'friends' online were only there to be nosy to see if you've got fat/married/had a baby lol so decided to call it a day once I knew I was pregnant-so much easier.... But I will say that as a result Ive lost contact with quite a few friends-but if they cant be bothered to email/text/call then they cant be very good friends right?....
I do find it incredibly annoying that I often hear about stuff after the event because I'm not on FB-its the whole attitude of they fb'd it so you should automatically know... status updates etc etc. Shame really.... I love social networking but prefer Twitter-but none of my friends are on it lol
Good luck in what you decide! it does cause no end of arguments I will say that! My soon to be 15 yr old niece quit when I did-after no end of crap amongst her school friends on there-it all got a bit too public....
Life is much less stressful without it I must admit!

I mostly feel like you about it. I originally never went on because clients at work were all on and asking if I was on facebook, I could see other staff (on facebook) struggling with it - not wanting to refuse friend requests but at the same time not wanting that crossover. It just seemed easier to stay away from the whole etiquette of it. There have been times I've thought it'd be handy to exchange photos/news etc with some people. But mostly I'm seeing people complain about it - how you've no control over what's on your own wall, exes wanting contact etc etc

oh yes can definately see its positive uses for sure ie. family abroad etc.
Bogeyface yes,i have just had dd and some people asked if her pics were on fb.
I was talking to a girl the other day and she said she had sp[lit up with her partner cos "he accepted a hot chocolate bath on fb!" wtf?
My ex's gf anounced her pg on there last year before ex had had the decency to speak to his children,i felt so sad for them,what a shock.Not fb fault tho.

oh gosh paisley,never thought about work.Could be a prob as i work in cp/adoption.dh is a copper and lots of them have been in trouble for stuff on there so glad he doesnt do it either.

If it's used appropriatley (and you have your security settings at top whack) then it's fun. TBH I'm always peeking at it as I can get it on my phone.

I don't have a social life at all and people aren't very chatty where I work so I would feel pretty isolated witout it. (am a lone parent).

yes meg i think id have loved it when was single parent for sure.Maybe when i get fed up with dh ill join up

Why would that be unreasonable?

Loved it, bad things happened, now I hate it! too many people can get into your life, think they know you and hurt you and your family!

No of course you are not being unreasonable to not have a FB account.

What an odd question.

If you cant be arsed with it, it dont tick your boxes, cant see the point in it, just dont fancy it etc etc then WHY would you bother with it?

It has its place for some people in some lives for others it does not. Its no biggy.

Neither having nor not having a FB account is unreasonable.

not an odd question when every second person i know has one or asks for my details,i was begining to think i was odd and not moving with the times.

No you are certainly not odd. I know more people without FB than i do on it.

Defo not being unreasonable. My stalker resurfaced thanks to facebook. Not only that but I found I was tempted to spend hours catching up with people I hadn't cared enough to stay in contact with rather than enjoying the people Ihave around me now. I got rid and now I am too busy having my own life to keep tabs on everyone elses. Stick to your guns!

Yesterday I had a random check out guy ask if he knew me, I said no don't think so.Then he said to me and dh 'Oh proberly seen you on facebook' now neither of us have been on there for a year now.

It scares me that if someone has pictures of you on there that all their friends can see you and you may not even know them!! It is too public for my liking!

I have an FB account - got it when DD was on a gap year to follow her. rarely post on it and have the security/privacy settings set to the utter maximum.