To think you can't really share good news with friends?

[Bluebell99]

Sounds a bit rediculous, but have noticed one friend in particular really can't stand it if I tell her something good has happened to one of my children for example and has to try to deflat me?! For example, My ds forgot to tell me that he had been chosen to take part in an event and kept the letter in his bag for two weeks!! I told my friend this story as I couldn't believe he had neglected to give me the letter, and she straight away came out with a story to say that being invited to take part meant nothing and probably everyone had and probably they invited the children whose parents were most likely to get them to go?! It's make me think that this particular group of friends aren't as nice as I thought and are actually a bit jealous?! To put it into context, my child has been unhappy recently and struggling a bit, so it was a really nice boost to his self esteem.

I had a 'friend' like this. It got to the point where I was scared to tell her when anything good happened because she found it hard to be happy for me and I could hear the resentment and jealousy in her voice. Now, I know that I have had a lot of good luck in my life and she has had less good fortune, but I was always a good friend to her, put myself out to help her when she needed it and I loved her like a sister. We had been friends since we were 14.

In the end I decided to end the relationship, because it had stopped being a real friendship. I still sometimes miss what we used to have, but have learned to accept that not all friendships are meant to last forever. I am mostly relieved not to have the awkward conversations where I downplay good stuff.

I would rather not have a 'friend' in my life who was unwilling or unable to celebrate the good things in life with me.

Well done to your DS Bluebell. I've got one of these friends and she hates it if I appear to be happy/do something better than her (in her opinion). She loves it when people are down though.

My sister has a bit of a habit of saying these sorts of things. She's had depression for a long time, and I think when you're not happy, some people have the tendency to project those feelings onto others. I don't speak to her anymore- she just became too emotionally draining and it was affecting my own hapiness.