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Original poster

to think spending time with my teenage brother isn't strange

25 replies

lerole · 23/02/2011 23:12

I'm going out for a meal and then to the cinema on Friday with my brother (15). MIL was here tonight and it came up in conversation and she found it unfathomable, saying but he's only a boy and shouldn't I stick to people my own age.

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gillybean2 · 23/02/2011 23:13

I take it she is the same age as you then? If not why is she hanging around visiting you? Oh wait, she's family maybe... Biscuit

poochela · 23/02/2011 23:15

but he's your brother, of course it's not strange. Why would it be odd? Confused

bristolcities · 23/02/2011 23:17

I spend alot of time with my 14 year old sis. She's funny and intelligent and because she has spent time being around adults and engaged in proper conversation she is actually really good company. Also gives me an excuse to indulge in crap films and newlook.

BulletWithAName · 23/02/2011 23:18

Errrm why is it weird? I get along like a house on fire with my 16 year old brother, he's great! We have exactly the same sense of humour and we always have a great laugh. What's so wrong in that? YADNBU!

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lerole · 23/02/2011 23:19

I said that he's my brother and family etc and she just looked puzzled and asked me what will you talk about? Won't you look an odd pair?

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Cathycat · 23/02/2011 23:19

No it's lovely. In fact teenage years are very vulnerable. He's lucky to have you.

smokingnuns · 23/02/2011 23:30

Lucky you that it's your MIL who is being completely weird - I had the exact same q put to me by CAMHS 'therapists' who asked if I thought my 16 yr old ds was my husband. Angry [run them over with my car emoticon]

FabbyChic · 23/02/2011 23:31

For gods sake he is your brother, not some random dude you picked up along the street.

What a weird woman.

FabbyChic · 23/02/2011 23:31

I go shopping with my son, what do we look like? He is 23 and I'm 46!

MissyKLo · 23/02/2011 23:33

Blimey what is going on in some people's heads?! Of course it's not weird, he is your brother! What a stupid, ignorant way for her to think!

Have a fab time with your bro and leave her to her silly thoughts!

redrollers · 23/02/2011 23:34

how stupid... her not you!

iwerta · 23/02/2011 23:34

YADNBU I have my 17 yo brother over tonight and I love spending time with him.

Monty27 · 23/02/2011 23:37

Oh he's lucky to have you. Enoy. My ds is 15, he'd love to have an older sister take him out I'm sure. :)

I really don't know what your MIL is on about, ignore her.

backwardpossom · 23/02/2011 23:38

Your MIL sounds like a fruitloop...

lia66 · 23/02/2011 23:39

gosh I hope my eldest children want to spend time with their much younger siblings as adults.

Silly moo.

huddspur · 23/02/2011 23:41

My brothers 11 and I love him to pieces. We regularly go out to the cinema or to get something to eat etc.

Grumpla · 23/02/2011 23:41

Haha, that is pretty weird of your MIL. Enjoy your day out it sounds fun :)

swallowedAfly · 23/02/2011 23:41

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LibraPoppyGirl · 23/02/2011 23:46

What a ridiculous thing to say (your MIL that is) Hmm

I'm 25wks pregnant with my second and my DS is 13yo. I really hope he wants to spend time with his sibling (we don't know what we're having Smile) when they're 15 and DS is 28, it would be lovely to have them that close Grin.

Enjoy your time with him Smile

lookingfoxy · 23/02/2011 23:50

I used to take my younger brother out all the time to the cinema, he would come for sleepovers at my house etc as well. Not strange at all.

piecenjam · 23/02/2011 23:53

My dd1 is 13 and my dd2 is 2. I really hope dd1 can make time for the wee one like you can for your db in a few years. You are a lovely sister. x

TheSecondComing · 23/02/2011 23:54

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CarnivalBizarre · 23/02/2011 23:55

Tell your MIL to sling her hook with her odd ideas!
I think its lovely that you have a great relationship with your brother and long may it continue Smile

I have no relationship with my siblings but I can't say that I miss them -which is sad because we were close growing up Sad

LibraPoppyGirl · 24/02/2011 00:03

Thanks TheSecondComing that is really lovely to hear. It's what we all want as parents, I think, for our DCs to be close and loving.

I'm really excited and I think your family closeness and love is beautiful Smile xx

eden263 · 24/02/2011 00:09

What a loon! My DS are 18 and 13 but my DD is only 2. DS1 and his ex gf used to take DD out by themselves, and now he's away at uni he's already talked about her going to stay with him in the holidays when she's a bit older. He really misses her. I'd be quite gutted if they didn't want to spend time with her when they're all older.

I've been to numerous rock and metal concerts and festivals with both DS as we all share similar tastes in music, I never considered it odd, and they presumably didn't either!

Have a lovely time with your DB. As an only child, I'd give my right arm to have a sibling to hang out with, whether older or younger...

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