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I feel so guilty I could throw up ....

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anothernewname09 · 23/02/2011 20:10

I was letting my 18 month old sit in the washing basket and she was playing with some socks ( trying to roll them up) when my phone rang.
I answered it, moved to the otherside of the room to get some signal, turned my back to DD and then hear her cry.
She was trying to get out but before I could get to her the basket tipped and she smacked her face on the hard floor and put her teeth through her lip.
She has gone to bed now but has a lip that looks like she has had a disagreement with mike Tyson.

I am sure she is fine but was so so upset and I feel terrible that I let it happen. I feel like I have caused her all that pain, just because I wanted to talk on the phone ............ Sad

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ongakgak · 23/02/2011 20:12

Oh no, poor you and poor little DD. We have all done it, don't feel too bad, a silly mistake and her lip will heal in no time.

I left my 5m on our bed- yep he rolled off- I was beside myself, he was fine after the initial shock.

wilkos · 23/02/2011 20:13

it happens, don't feel guilty Smile Wine

curlycat · 23/02/2011 20:14

don't feel too bad - accidents happen all the time - you cannot watch them 24/7 - my 2 have survived to 6 and 10 with loads of bumps and bruises. she probably got more of a fright than anything else.

molemesseskilledIpom · 23/02/2011 20:14

Motherhood is one LONG guilt trip. This is just a taster.

She's fine, she's happy, she's sleeping and she's not complaining.

She will get worse bumps than this because you blinked and wasnt watching her like a hawk without eyelids.

Chalk it up as experience.

vinorosado · 23/02/2011 20:15

Yes, as wilkos says, it really does happen to all of us, luckily it was nothing serious. There is nothing you can do now, just be pleased no real harm is done and forgive yourself! It is impossible (I think) to get through the first 4 years without something like this happening.

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DooinMeCleanin · 23/02/2011 20:16

I was about to strap baby dd1 into the swinging once, when my mobile (which was in pocket) rang. I took my hands and eyes off her for a second to grab my phone, literally a second. Of course that's all it takes for newborn babies to throw themselves forwards in temper and out of the chair.

She had a huge bump. Luckily it was my mum who was phoning who drove straight round and took us to A and E.

Then there was time we were playing and she ended up headbutting me and cracking her first tooth in half Sad

And the time we were playing races and she tripped and cracked her other front tooth and fractured her gum.

And the time she was bouncing on the sofa and I told her "If you bounce into that fishtank I won't be sitting at the hospital with you" - just as she bounced into the fishtank and cracked her head open Blush

Quite how she has survived until 7 years of age is a mystery to us all.

(alright the third one was my mum, not me, but still.....)

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anothernewname09 · 23/02/2011 20:18

Thankyou guys.
Also thanks for the wine WILKOS!

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mrspear · 23/02/2011 20:18

Do not feel guilty. This morning i left ds unbuckled in his pushchair as i turned round and pulled the bath plug. Yep you guessed it leaned too far out and landed on the tiled bathroom floor. He has a nice big bruise. But no sickness thank goodness. So i will pass the Wine and we can both feel terrible [and stupid] together

sjm123 · 23/02/2011 20:20

Oh poor little thing, I bet you're feeling a bit shaken too.

Don't feel too bad, these things happen, kids fall and they hurt themselves no matter how attentive you are! My son (12 now) once fell face first onto a matchbox car at around 3yo and did the same thing with his tooth as your little one. I was looking right at him at the time too. Small children will manage to injure themselves somehow even if you have your eyes on them 24/7! You would really have to squint hard in just the right light to see any mark at all on him now, it's like nothing happened and your little one will be right as rain in a day or two.

Don't be too hard on yourself and try and chill a bit Wine :)

KCS · 23/02/2011 20:20

Don't worry. It's a rite of passage. All part of the parenting thing. Don't feel guilty. Sure you'll both feel better in the morning :)

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anothernewname09 · 23/02/2011 20:24

You people are all so nice!

I know if it was somebody else that had written this OP I would be saying exactly the same thing.

It just feels so much worse when it is you!

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pointythings · 23/02/2011 20:35

My DD1 once hurled herself out of her high chair after dinner in her eagerness to start marauding - she'd just learned to walk. She smacked herself into the sideboard and gave herself a black eye.

When we took her out two days later the looks we got were half 'Oh you horrible people!' and the other half 'Yep, been there too.'

Still feels horribel though, so have some more Wine.

RunAwayWife · 23/02/2011 20:40

Wow if you got to 18 months without blood and guts your a star.

Managed to drop DS1 when he was 5 weeks old Blush

maighdlin · 23/02/2011 20:52

i feel your pain. I let my attention go for a second and DD fell down the stairs. It was horrible. She cried for about five mins then was fine but i was in floods of tears barely able to breathe. DH had to come home from work. still feel like im going to vomit just thinking about it, and she had not a scratch on her.

OTTMummA · 23/02/2011 21:00

Don't worry OP, we all do it.
I am actually suprised my DS can walk and talk with the amount of times i've whacked his head on door frames and the like.

Give her lots of extra cuddles and im sure she will be fine.

Mists · 23/02/2011 21:13

Door-frames are so easy to do when the DC are so light and new, they weigh nothing and you forget you're holding anything. I whacked DD's head on one once when she was tiny and cried and cried.

I never forgot it.

Until seven years later when I did the exact same thing to DS Hmm Can't believe I didn't learn from it given how bad I felt.

My worst was when I was watching DD (10) pull DS (3) into the pool and him giggling. Big splash, she looked away, I looked away, then when the water cleared he was upside down trapped in his rubber ring, little legs kicking Shock

Yes I still have actual nightmares about it.

I put it in the thread about swimming / drowning accidents which kept getting bumped all summer. I can't find it and hope it was moved out of Chat because it made me feel better was very, very useful.

RevoltingPeasant · 23/02/2011 21:22

I am ten years older than my youngest sibling and once after being allowed to bath her by myself I went downstairs to tell my mum something and forgot to latch the safety gate at the top of the stairs.

I will NEVER forget standing in the living room with my mum and suddenly bump-bump-bump-bump-bump-AWFULPAUSE-waaaaaaaaaah.

I have never been so glad to hear a child cry :(

Still Blush

GotArt · 23/02/2011 21:33

It happens... I was engrossed in reading the ingredients on a box of crackers one day at the grocery store and DD stood up in the cart and fell over backwards on top of the groceries at a 18 months... thanks goodness it was into the basket part but still, I felt so guilty.

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newnameforamoment · 23/02/2011 22:05

I fell down the stairs while carrying dd (she was about 15 months). I caught my foot on about the fourth stair up from the bottom, stumbled and just went. God knows how much I managed to twist (I was coming down so she was in front of me) so she landed on top of me rather than the other way round, and also managed to fall through the open stair gate rather than onto the metal of the side of it. She screamed and screamed for what felt like ages, then spotted Mr Tumble on TV and got up and trotted off to watch as though nothing had happened. I felt sick with the thoughts of what might have happened for the rest of the day - and all because I was wearing shoes that were slightly loose....

ledkr · 23/02/2011 22:07

yes we def all do it,but never forget it,to out things into perspective i have just put a metal knife into the toaster switched on to remove something Shock i still cant believe it,the trip went so im ok but just shows how we can just forget things for a moment,hope you and dd have a better day tomorrow.

Ismene · 23/02/2011 22:10

Don't feel guilty, when DD was a teeny baby I was cutting her fingernails and snipped the end of her finger. She is nearly 5 and I still can't cut her nails - DH has to do it. He has told her why too, and she laughs and says 'mummy why did you cut me with scissors when I was a baby, how naughty!'

mmsmum · 23/02/2011 22:15

Don't feel guilty, I know you probably will anyway but it was just an accident, happens to everyone!