...or just a bit precious?

[woollyideas]

I haven't seen my daughter's godmother for about five years as she now lives at the other end of the country from us. A few weeks ago she told me she was planning a trip to our neck of the woods and asked if I could take a day off work so that she could spend the day with me and DD, who would be on half term holidays.

I booked a day's annual leave and was really looking forward to seeing her. She arrived down south on Saturday and spent the weekend with other friends who live about ten miles away. She was then meant to be spending the day with me and DD on Monday before travelling on to Kent to see her brother.

She texted me Monday morning to say she'd be with me 'around 2 p.m.', then turned up at 2.40. She left two and a half hours later, as her brother was 'doing dinner' and she was 'running late'.

She hardly ate any lunch saying she wasn't very hungry as she'd had a 'massive' breakfast with the friends she'd been staying with. She also dropped into the conversation that she'd spent the morning going for a long walk with them and their dogs, which was why she was late to my house.

AIBU to feel bloody cross with her. She asked me to take off a day off work for this, which I was happy to do, and had said she'd spend the day with me and DD, hence me making nice lunch.... I can't help feeling that my place in the visiting pecking order has been made very plain to me...

AIBU or should I just get over myself?

You're not being precious - I'd be hacked off as well. If you would have been at home anyway it would maybe have been fair enough, but knowing you'd taken a day off - that's piss poor on her part.

I know plans change sometimes, but givne you'd taken a day off I think SWBU

I dont think YABU. OTOH, I'd love DD to see more of her godmother, unfortunately she lives in Borneo now and is planning to move to Aus soon.
Godparents are strange things IMO, I don't think I've seen mine since I was about 7 months old. I am nearly 47.

She obv overstretched herself with no thought to you! Yanbu at all, it would have hacked me off a bit too.

I'd be hacked off too. She sounds ruddy inconsiderate and rude. If I'd asked someone to take a whole day off work I'd expect to spend it with them, not turn up for a couple of hours and then breeze off to dinner.

YANB at all U.

YANBU

YANBU.

You should have reminded her that you had used leave to spend this day with her, not just over 2 hours.

i would be a bit peed off too,my brother did this to me & oh when i was pregnant with ds1,oh called in sick as bro pressured us into going over to his and his now ex wifes for boxing day,not many buses running and 10 mile trip to his,got there had some food and then they tell us we had to leave after an hour as they were going to sil dads house,even tho they had spent xmas day there,we had to sit in rain and cold for hour waiting for bus as bro wouldnt drive us back home,i was 8 months gone,pissed off didnt even come close,oh nearly lost his job,yes i know he shouldnt have taken day off,but we were young and my dad had died that year and i wanted to spend time with my family.