I must be an awful parent.

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My Children (3 & 6) would rather spend the day at the school holiday club than have a lovely family day out with myself and DH.

They have reluctantly chosen a day at the Safari Park, but it is clear that we are not their number one choice.

So, am I being unreasonable?

No not at all ,Holiday clubs are busy- Full of their friends and they get to do lots of activities. I would love if all the children in my holiday club would choose to come over being home :) I understand how you feel but it is nothing to do with you being a bad parent just the amount of fun their holiday club is clearly providing :)

Thank you - Perspective was just what I needed.

I still feel a little disappointed that they don't want to spend time with me on my day off. I suppose we'll just have to make sure that they have more fun with us!

id send them to the holiday club and have a shagfest with dh, eat chocolates and watch rubbish films on t in bed.

If it makes you feel any better DS1 wants to swap me and have his teacher be his mother now. I'm not sure where I'm moving on to.

Custardo

That's the thing with parents/being a parent, parents always want to spend time with their children (mostly ) but children shouldn't always want to spend time with their parents.

It doesn't mean you're awful at all

Definately second taking advantage of the time you've got off!

Lovely idea Custardo, but not sure what I'd do with our 18 month old

DC1 told me recently that he is not leaving home, not even when I'm dead! It seems I've now been replaced by the wonderful staff at the holiday club. At least I can look forward to a peaceful retirement?

I loved the holiday clubs far more than being at home. Didn't mean I didn't like being at home just that at holiday clubs I was with people my own age and they did such cool things and I got to throw water bombs
I also remember throwing tantrums when I had to go home from nursery school though. My DS is probably going to be the same as he hates leaving nursery. Some kids are just more outgoing and love new things and being with people their own age. I wouldn't worry about it and you should be pleased you have two independant, confident children by the sounds of it.

My DD1 used to say that when she moved out she's moving next door to us

No you're bloody not

They both love school and nursery most of the time - Something I am very grateful for as I was never all that keen.

AgentZigzag I will be actively ecouraging mine to emigrate somewhere I can sunbathe in summer and ski in winter

DD is 3 and loves pre-school, nursey and cm. She only started pre school and nursery in Jan but settled in with no problems - seemed far too happy to be seperated from me. I'm glad she didn't find it traumatic, but she could miss me a bit!!

Holiday club is amazing fun. Don't take it personally!

shineoncrazydiamond DH has said that we should just let them go tomorrow, but it is the only day of the holidays that we can be togther and I don't want them too (It would be far cheaper though).

MadamDeathstare that sounds just about perfect - It's a pity I'll have to wait another 20 years, I could do with it now!

How wonderful that they are secure and independent enough to want to go to the holiday club...you are clearly doing something right, OP!

It's surprising how much better I feel after posting, I was quite tearful when I got home from work and seriously questioning if my parenting was at fault.

It's lovely to know mine are not the only children that feel this way.

A lovely welcome to AIBU - Thank you!

Too many "lovelys" sorry.