mums makes me uncomfortable

[amiheartless]

I feel like a right heartless cow, I've name changed as its a sensitive subject.

the thing is my mum had quite a few bad experiences as a young woman,assault etc.

she told me when I was young teenager once is fair enough But now that door has been opened every time she had a drink, saw something on tv in relation the conversation resumes and even in convo's with no relation,
often very innapropriate, graphic content ..infront of my partner which I have told is innapropriate.
Im in my 20's now and I find myself running upstairs to bed as soon as she cracks open a botlle coz I know where it'll end, turning over TV channels, changing subject. She has a therapist (her line of work insists on it)
And comments like
'I was very attractive so you'll not know what I went through '
I'd like her to reign it in a bit,,
I think it was selfish of her to burden a young teen with stuff she knew I had nowhere to go with whilst she had a therapist to go off to, and that she doesnt recognise I am her daughter! its an innapropriate dialogue, and worried she'll do this to DC as they get older.

Sorry its been really long first time ive spoken to anybody about this, what I wann know is am I heartless? how do I tell her what I need to without appearing a nasty cow? and how to deal with the aftermath
be getle plase flamers

'cut her off by changing the channel and changing the subject'

Congrats on the small step forward ami

It is possible to communicate something to somebody without directly saying it.

You could just try small things that indicate you don't feel comfortable with the conversation at first, and if she doesn't cotton on then you can step it up to another level?

You might feel a bit more confident to be direct about it if you've already practiced with little things?

thankyou for responses, i feel like wihout previous responses I would never have done so

I feel i must clarify she is not an AC has one glass every other night etc its just alchohol lowers inhibitions etc and also I'm not sure if i mentioned in OP she does have a therapist, her job requires, its one of the reasons I get so annoyed.

she would say similar stuff as sober as a judge