to buy fil a freezer

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AuntiePickleBottom · 21/02/2011 23:56

last year we borrowed £150 from him to do emergency repairs on the car, for the x amount of time he has refused to take it back.
his freezer has broken down, so i was thinking of buying him a freezer out of the money we owe him.

do you think he will be offended by this

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BluddyMoFo · 21/02/2011 23:57

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ExeterisEasy · 21/02/2011 23:57

weird question. if you wanna buy him a freezer then buy him one. only you know if he will accept the gift or not.

ExeterisEasy · 21/02/2011 23:58

that came across more acerbic than i intended. its a nice thought but if he won't take back money you have borrowed why would he accept a blatant "gift". As I said, only you know if he will be open to accepting the gift.

SarahStrattonHasNiceBears · 21/02/2011 23:59

I think you should give him the money back and allow him to spend his money on what he wants to. It's a lovely thought, but it is up to him really :)

FetchezLaVache · 22/02/2011 00:00

He sounds like a proud man, he'd probably hate it if you just bought him a freezer, but perhaps if you offered and explained you'd like to do for him, he might let you.

What a lovely FIL you have, btw!

SarahStrattonHasNiceBears · 22/02/2011 00:00

Oh, sorry. I somehow managed to miss the bit about him refusing to take it back. In which case I would ask him but it is a lovely idea.

FabbyChic · 22/02/2011 00:01

I think it is a lovely idea if he has not purchased one already.

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AuntiePickleBottom · 22/02/2011 00:02

i just wish he would take the money back, so frustrating..especially when he says spend it on the kid aaaarrrggg

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ExeterisEasy · 22/02/2011 00:03

perhaps buy him a prezzie and say it is an advance gift on a birthday/fathers day whatever. say you have the cash right now and would prefer to get him a gift whilst you have the available funds...?

squeakytoy · 22/02/2011 00:07

I think it would be a great gesture, even if he wont accept it, at least offer.:)

abbierhodes · 22/02/2011 00:10

I'd ask him to take it back and keep it in case you have another emergency. This is how I get my dad to take money back that he lends us.

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Underachieving · 22/02/2011 02:28

Spend it on the kids and stop being silly about it. You give people presents surely, you are considering one now. Well let him give you the present of writing your debt to him off and accept it with grace instead of making it a tit for tat issue. Both my darling step sons are in thier 20's and I know if either of them had kids we'd hapily put up £150 for emergency car repairs as long as we had it spare and we'd think nothing of writing it off afterwards either. Not because we're minted (quite the opposite) but because it's not a nice atmosphere for him to be beholden to us or indebted to us, that doesn't make for a good sense of community. Your FIL probably wrote off the debt for the same reason, because he loves you and wants to be thought of as a person you love too and not as a regular outgoing. Just accept that he wrote your bill off and stop trying to force him into a position he doesn't want to be in. He loves you/your OH/the kids, accept it.

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