to think CMs should control their children?

[bounty007]

Childminder turned up at our toddler group today with 4 children. Within 30seconds, both of my DCs were in tears due to being knocked over by them. They then proceeded to run amock amongst the civilised play of the other children. I told here that she shouldn't bring them there if she couldn't control them. AIBU?

yep just did. i was answering your OP.

PLEASE do not generalise.

ARGH.

I don't think you are being unreasonable - whether it is a cm or parent or nanny - you expect people to be in control. This cm clearly isn't.

There is a vindictive tone to your post. The childminder in question should have firmer boundaries in place. But YABU to suggest that all childminders need more 'control' over their children. The children I care for are all very well behaved whilst in my care.

thank you thinkingaboutschools. I didn't mean to upset all the CMs out there, its just that all the parents at the group control their children hence the "civilised play". This CM can't seem to control her or anyone elses children...which makes the group and horrible when she is there...

justcarrots she gives off a vibe that says "do not tell me or the children in my charge what to do" even when they are being awful eg pushing, pulling hair, pressing other children against the floor. With anyone else at the group, if a child were terrorising either of my DCs, I would tell them to stop.

you say all the other parents at the group control tehir children. is she the only CMer that attends?

yes she is the only CM there, we go to another group that is mainly CMs/Grandparents and they all control their children. Its just this one CM...I dont think I was being unreasonable in saying to her that if she couldnt control them, she shouldnt be there, but i wanted to check the general concensis before I do any more about it...

It is a shame then that she goes to a nice group and ruins it. Is it possible for the person in charge of the group to issue her with a letter of complaint? Hopefully that would be enough to show her that she needs to have her children behaving properly.

yes she should control her children so yanbu on that, but i don't think its typical of child minders. many of them do a good job, and there are many mums who do not control their dc either..
but yes this particular woman does not sound too good. can the organiser's not have a word with her?