I had an argument with ex on monday and at the time I was sure I was NBU but as usual I am doubtng myself. It's already happened now so really wont make a great deal of difference but I am curious who you all think was BU.
Brief history.
We split up a month ago, it was my decision, he didn't want to.
He has been seein the children 3 times a week and things have been amicable a friendly so far.
He works for a company who he used to work part time for but they offered him full time on the condition that they took into account our sons long term illness and they were understanding in regards to time off ect for it.
Anyway, DS1 went into hospital last Monday for a routine lot of treatment. EX looked after DS2 for the night.
On Tuesday the hospital ran some standard tests and found ut that DS1 was in fact very unwell and said he would need to stay in the week.
I called EX and told him the news and asked him if he was ok to keep staying ay my house to look after DS2.
He said no, he couldn't get time off work. I said that he has always got the time off before as his boss was aware of the situation.
He then said he wouldn't even ask his boss as it wasn't his responsibility anymore and if I hadn't ended the relationship he would of done it but since I had he wasn't going to.
I had lterally no one else at that point and tried explaining to him that even though we weren't together he still had a duty to the chidren and also if he didn't do it I would have to leave DS1 at the hospital by himself over night which we have both in the past agreed would be unkind as DS1 has a lot of night time medications he is hooked up to and he wakes a lot and would be scared to be by himself.
Anyway EX point blank refused and told me to get on with it as I was now a single parent.
Luckily my sister stepped up, although it wasn't conveininet for her as she has her own children and family to look after but she did it to help me out.
EX visited DS1 twice and idn't bother with DS2 at all.
I think he was BU but he says I was.
My point being that it wouldn't have effected him, and he doesn't pay any child support at all which I have been happy with becuase he has kept a good relationship with the kids so really it wouldn't have hurt for him to do this favour for me.