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To have a photographer at dd 1st birthday?

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Lizbertnobacon · 21/02/2011 16:40

I suppose it is more of an aib pfb rather than Aibu but thought I would get honest answers here!

Dd is 1 in 3 months. We are having a little party and the lady who runs our baby music/singing type class is going to come for an hour and play games with them etc. Only about 10 babies coming and it's going to be a joint party with a friends baby. Don't intend on having any fancy theme or going overboard with decs etc.

When dd was born we signed up to photography package where we have photos of her at newborn, 6 months then 1 year. We were trying to think where to have her 1 year photos taken (because we wanted each of the sets of photos to look quite different) and I thought seeing as photographer is coming to the house at some point anyway it might be fun to take photos at the party where dd will hopefully be having lots of fun.

The photographer is very relaxed and wouldn't be intrusive, she takes only unposed natural pictures so
it wouldn't be a 'say cheese!' type thing.

I'm just a bit concerned the other parents will think we are pretentious idiots. Aibu to get the photographer to come to the party or should I just get her to come another time? Thanks!

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Lizbertnobacon · 21/02/2011 20:07

Worral - yep, there are all sorts of classes. I had no idea there was such a thing as baby classes until I had dd. I remember a friend asking what classes I had signed up for and I though she meant had I enrolled her in primary school yet Blush
Bucharest - I am hoping as it's a shared party there will be shared hosting duties so that I can nip off to scream into a pillow upstairs if it gets a bit much.
I do think the photos will be lovely to look back on, and that's a good idea about having the other babies photographed if their parents wanted it.

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PorcelinaOfTheVastOceans · 21/02/2011 20:16

i'm a photographer, have never been asked to do a first birthday, but sounds like it would be fun! Grin go for it!

SauvignonBlanche · 21/02/2011 20:18
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GloriaSmut · 21/02/2011 20:23

I'm a photographer too. And while I can see there might be opportunities to drum up more business (not that this IS the sort of business I do!) personally, I'd suggest a rather quieter time to get the best pictures. Or do you want, dribbly, cake-covered, red-faced baby shots?

Also, you need to be very certain that the presence of other guests is acceptable to the photographer. I know that if I was doing a particular commission, I wouldn't necessarily thank anyone for presenting me with a job lot of subjects. Especially since my attendance fee would have been based on the original expectation.

NorthernGobshite · 21/02/2011 20:31

I think its a bit pretentious.

Edinburghlass · 21/02/2011 21:35

Think it's probably OK so long as the guests know it was already arranged and paid for, and the photographer knows you're asking him / her to take photos of extra kids. Otherwise probably easier to do the photographer visit another day. No-one will know.

After my aunt's wedding photos were issued, my Mum realised she had no photos of our family, so she made us all dress up again and wait for the milkman to come and take our photos in our "special outfits" - never mind that this was 100 miles away and 2 months later!

sandyballs · 21/02/2011 21:41

Sounds lovely as long as there is no hard sell on your guests from photographer!

As for babies being too young for a first birthday party, my twin girls loved theirs and we have lovely videos and photos to look back on.

TastesLikePanda · 21/02/2011 21:45

Errm I took my CATS to have their portraits taken on their first birthday so I say Go For It!
Mad Cat Lady Blush

TryLikingClarity · 21/02/2011 21:52

Lol at TLP getting portraits of her cats!

My cat (see my profile for her pic) would hate a professional portrait session!

OP - I think you DD's party seems like it will be great, the photographer sounds like a good idea.

It's my DS's 1st birthday this weekend and we're having a party for him in our church hall. Around 10-15 kids will be there and at first some older relatives were Hmm "why are you having a party for him? He's too young..."

I think it's good to mark their 1st birthday. I don't plan to have another big party for DS until he's in primary school (at least) but I do want to mark his special 1st birthday.

YANBU.

Enjoy! :)

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Lizbertnobacon · 21/02/2011 22:02

The photographer knows that there will be other babies there and is happy to do the party.
I know she wouldn't put the hard sell on other parents as she is a friend and have known her for years. I'm sure she would only take photos of other children if asked by their parents.
Will make sure I tell other parents about it before they come though.

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TastesLikePanda · 21/02/2011 22:09

Aww TLC - Matilda is lovely!
One cat loved having his picture taken, the other was not too sure about it. Alas, I got ripped off by the studio that went bust after taking my money and I never got my photo...

Apologies for hijack!

eden263 · 21/02/2011 22:33

YANBU. One of DD's friends' dad is a professional photographer so everyone had a photographer snapping away at their parties that first year, lol!

It's your party at the end of the day and up to you how you wish to record it - not much difference between what you're doing and you/DH having your own camera or video camera out, which many people do anyway.

Have a lovely day :)

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