aibu or is DH

[EenieMeenieMineiMo]

Before I start I just want to say that me and DH are no longer arguing about this, I just wanted to ask, as my friend thinks my DH was Unreasonable, but I can now see it from DH's point of view (I think)

On Saturday night I went out with the girls, I hadnt done this for oh god I cant even remeber.

We went to a restaurant for a meal and tbh I told DH before I left home that after the restaurant I would proberly come home which would be about 10.30.

But after I met up with the girls i relaxed alot more and wanted to stay out.

I thought DH would be ok with this as it was 8.30 when we left the resaurant (which is alot earlier than I thought we would tbh)

We went on to a couple of clubs, While I was in the first club in the toilets I did txt DH saying as a joke I may add "hey hunny what time am I aloud out till lol"

After I sent that message I got one back saying I thought you already told me what time you would be back in.

To which I completly forgot about my phone and went out and enjoyed myself.

Cue at 11 DH is ringing me, I realise in the toilets that I have 12 missed calls and DH then says wft you doing you said you would be home by 10.30.

We argue on the phone for about 1/2 to which in the end I was so exhasted I just said ok I would get a taxi in Half an hour.

Then left that club and had mates saying how out of line DH was being and that he had ruined the night.

Felt so gulity that I just slipped of to the taxi rank without them seeing.

Got home and DH just gave me a big hug and them helped me to bed as i was a little worse for wear

So Was ibu for not sticking to my time or was DH for not letting me stay out and phone me for being late.

Sorry for the long post just wanted to get all the facts in

well they do have OH's but One friends OH is away in the navy atm and the other doesnt live with her OH

I dunno, one of my mates spending ages in the loos arguing on the phone and then sloping off having got them all out of the nightclub, would put a bit of a crimp in the evening.

@ OP, There's nothing wrong with him being a worrier and a home-body, but just watch it doesn't become him controlling your social life.

I think you have a strange relationship. YABU for using the word 'allowed' - you are a grown woman, he doesn't allow or disallow, surely?

If you were going to be ridiculously late, then you could have text him to say so but 12.30pm is nothing.

you both sound about 12.

I think the way you dealt with it was really odd and not very mature really.

In a similar situation I would have rung DH and said, 'I know I was planning to be home by 10.30, but I'm having a really good time and I want to stay out later. Don't wait up for me, I've got my key and I'll be home by X time'.

Which he would of course be fine with, as would I if he did the same to me.

Think ywbu for sneaking off without tllingyour mates,that's U and irresponsible, they could have been worried about you or spent ages looking for you. Don't think it was dh who knackered their evening but your messing around.

Dh was BU for saying you 'couldn't stay out'.

For your own sanity yes, say you will be out later, you can always come home early, or just call and say you will be later and back at XYZ otherwise you will create imbalance in your relationship, putting your dh in parent role of you