Not to go to this wedding given circumstances?

[Wamster]

My husband and myself (no dc's) are due to go to a wedding friday week. It is miles and miles away and it is a member of HIS family that is getting wed.
Things have been awful between us for ages and I want to leave him, he shouts a great deal when angry, calls me terrible names, and is dismissive of my feelings and tells me: 'I need to get over them'.
I have said that I do not think it a good idea for me to go to this wedding- I HATE letting bride and groom down, but what can I do? Going to this wedding would mean five days with him and his family miles from mine (family).
He insists I go as 'it would put a downer on bride's day' if she knew we were separating.
I don't know what to do. Please help. AIBU not to go?

You'll have a sudden nasty contagious case of D&V the day you're going to travel. No one asks too many questions when it's D&V. Don't go - it'll be hideous for you and I doubt the bride will care.

Call in sick - 5 days feeling miserable and isolated whilst feeling like you had to walk around with a smile = hell. And for a man you want to leave??? Madness. You don't HAVE to go.

Enjoy 5 days peace & quite instead. Or perhaps you could use the time to pack?

Maybe that is why your H is so insistent about you going - not only does he not want to lose 'face' with his family, but he's afraid you won't be there when he gets back?

Don't go, use the time to separate instead.

Someone mentioned a locksmith earlier, I don't know if you're buying/renting but either way if his name is on the mortgage/tenancy agreement you can't legally change the locks.

Don't go if you don't think it's appropriate but please do let them know, even if you tell a white lie and say that you are unwell.

A friend didn't go to my wedding for similar reasons but didn't tell me. I did notice she wasn't at the ceremony and imagined that she and her DH had had an accident or something until another friend was able to give me their apologies, which wasn't until some time later with all the hoo-ha.