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Too many weddings?

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Mapley · 21/02/2011 08:44

I'm recentky engaged and want to get married this summer. Mainly because I'm the wrong side of 35 and want to start ttc soon, but would prefer not to be pregnant or breastfeeding on my wedding day. I don't want a winter wedding as we have a marquee we can use. I also don't feel comfortable waiting till next summer due to age and ttc.

Trouble is between friends and family there's already 3 weddings and a baby due this summer. People are saying we'd be better to wait till next summer. Are we being selfish and stealing other people's thunder by doing it this year. Are we expecting too much of family and friends to plan our wedding too when they other weddings to attend and a new baby to welcome?

I didn't realise there was a queue. Is this the case? Would most people be pissed off if asked to attend a wedding when there are a few others already organised? And if you already had your wedding planned would you be annoyed if a friend got married in the same month?

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Mapley · 21/02/2011 13:20

You're all so nice! Thank you for being excited for me. I'm relieved , I was expecting a flaming!

I'm not sure I could manage to get organised by march or Easter. My ideal would be end of July, but dp's best friend is getting married then, and dp is stressed that noone would come to his stag, as they'd have indentical blokes going. And his sister's baby is due beginning of august.

I think September it'll need to be! Just hope it's an Indian summer!

I'm not on the pill, use condoms and avoid shagging round ovulation, so hopefully will be ok. But I know it might not happen, will just have to see. Happy to wait till sept to try as I have the summer to mentally and physically prepare for pregnancy and get a bit of debauchery out of my system! I've already got a toddler, so I know that I wouldn't want to be preggers or have a teeny one on wedding day ideally. If it happened i'd make the best of it, but would rather be a bit freeer and able to be in control of my body for my wedding day! I found pregnancy and the first year very difficult last time, so would prefer not to be in that state if mind if possible!

I can't stop looking at dresses! Feel like I've been infected by a bridal virus.

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curlymama · 21/02/2011 13:26

September sounds lovely for a wedding, but I would say that, we got married at the end of September. But it was nice to have a definate difference between night and day if you know what I mean.

I'd try not to make it the week before or after any important guests weddings, but other than that, just get whetever date you can. It's not always as simple as just choosing a date and going for it, especially of you are using a registrar.

FWIW, one of our most important guests got married the week before ours, our wedding had been booked for a year, she planned hers in six weeks because they had visa issues. I was delighted to be able to go to a wedding the week before ours, it was lovely. Both she and I went way out of our way to make the others day as fantastic as possible, and I wouldn't have chosen it any other way. Not all brides get shitty about sharing their wedding month!

diddl · 21/02/2011 13:30

"I think September it'll need to be!"

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CaveMum · 21/02/2011 13:36

All the best weddings are in September Wink
We got married mid-September 2008 after a summer of pretty much non-stop rain. Our day started cloudy but by the time of the reception had cleared to clear blue skies and temperatures got up to 25C!

Annpan88 · 21/02/2011 13:43

I'm planning to get married and I'm getting endlessly fucked pissed off with everyone telling me what I can and can't do. Its your day, have it your way. Easier said than done though.

breatheslowly · 21/02/2011 13:43

Go for it. Do let people know the date ASAP as many won't yet have booked holidays and I am sure would choose not to book over your wedding.

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Mapley · 21/02/2011 15:11

Thank you x

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OliveMalay · 21/02/2011 15:30

YANBU. Go for it :)

HappySeven · 21/02/2011 17:03

Congratulations! I would definitely go ahead as you want. We went to 10 weddings in 2000 (it was a popular year as you can imagine) and while it did mean it was very difficult to do anything else that year we wouldn't have had it any other way.

We got married 2 years later and planned it in 6 months - it was lovely, far less stressful than some people's weddings. Hope you have a lovely day.

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Mapley · 21/02/2011 17:11

Haha diddl!

I'm a bit excited! I'm going to be a bride!

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