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To think that dh should get up at 7am every day

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mummytopebs · 20/02/2011 07:34

I sleep with dd as she has medical problems which mean I have to keep a close eye on her. She does not sleep well at all waking around 6 times a night and even though she is 1 she still has a night feed. Take last night for instance she was awake from 11pm till 2am. Then tossed and turned crying out and waking up, then woke up for the morning at 6am.

I ask him to get up at 7am (when she is sick of watching tv in bed) as I have about zero sleep a night. In the week he makes me feel a bit guilty (he goes to work at 8 so I get up at 7.30) but on a weekend I get mega guilt trip, and I do feel awful about asking him but in a way think its only fair as I am awake practically all night.

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LeninGrad · 20/02/2011 08:18

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caramelwaffle · 20/02/2011 08:19

Yanbu.

Without decent sleep you will eventually get ill and he will then be forced to do ALL of the caring. Point this out to him.

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mummytopebs · 20/02/2011 08:24

Yes he looks after dd's while I work evenings am back for 10.30 pm though.

And yes I agree just an hour on the morning undisturbed sleep makes you feel a whole lot more ready to face the day.

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Foreverondiet · 20/02/2011 08:28

It doesn't sound like her had come to terms with the fact that you need to be up all night with your DD and this is likely to continue long term.

If he is lucky enough to get 7 hours of uninterupted sleep in the night at the weekends then you need uninterupted sleep at the weekends in the day. I think you need to thing of several options that would work eg taking it in turns to sleep with her/sharing lie ins/you sleeping in the day at weekends etc etc and discussing what will work best.

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mummytopebs · 20/02/2011 08:31

Well after the wise words of the mnetters, I am now going to wake up dh and tell him to get up so I can go back to bed for an hour :0

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PavlovtheCat · 20/02/2011 08:34

good for you. i hope you get some sleep.

nowwearefour · 20/02/2011 08:36

well said spidookly. the circumstances mean noone gets as much sleep as they might like. it should be about pulling together as a team. ordnarily after a shocking night's seep i would expect dh to help out. maybe as a one off sometimes you might let him have a ile in but most of the time he should surely be up, supporting you.

PavlovtheCat · 22/02/2011 06:38

mummytopebs did you get to have a sleep? have you been able to talk about a better way forward for you? I hope things improve for you x

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